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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 638696" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Oh Walk, I am so sorry. I think we all have those little dreams of what "that day" will be like, those milestones in their lives that we can maybe take a look back over the years and say, "Whew! Job well done!" Our little girl in her bridal gown or her graduation cap, our little boy all grown up, tall and in his tux...</p><p></p><p>As parents of difficult children, we usually don't get those "payoff" moments. Either they don't get there at all, or if they do they choose to exclude us. For your daughter to just cut everyone out of that day, to not share that milestone, well, I'm just so sorry. It hurts. We have all been there, I think, have had those confirmations that it doesn't even seem to register with them that they have been loved with our whole hearts.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the others above. Your daughter is a married adult now, and she is sending some pretty clear signals that she doesn't want or need any help. I would abide by her wishes and pick a nice vacation spot for you and husband!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I have come to the conclusion that how and why are questions with no answers. But one thing I do know with absolute certainty is that we have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. Usually our friends and families are well aware of what we have been through. If anything, they judge us much more charitably than we judge ourselves. Those who are more critical usually come around pretty quickly once they decide to try to "help" and "fix" our difficult children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 638696, member: 17720"] Oh Walk, I am so sorry. I think we all have those little dreams of what "that day" will be like, those milestones in their lives that we can maybe take a look back over the years and say, "Whew! Job well done!" Our little girl in her bridal gown or her graduation cap, our little boy all grown up, tall and in his tux... As parents of difficult children, we usually don't get those "payoff" moments. Either they don't get there at all, or if they do they choose to exclude us. For your daughter to just cut everyone out of that day, to not share that milestone, well, I'm just so sorry. It hurts. We have all been there, I think, have had those confirmations that it doesn't even seem to register with them that they have been loved with our whole hearts. I agree with the others above. Your daughter is a married adult now, and she is sending some pretty clear signals that she doesn't want or need any help. I would abide by her wishes and pick a nice vacation spot for you and husband! I have come to the conclusion that how and why are questions with no answers. But one thing I do know with absolute certainty is that we have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. Usually our friends and families are well aware of what we have been through. If anything, they judge us much more charitably than we judge ourselves. Those who are more critical usually come around pretty quickly once they decide to try to "help" and "fix" our difficult children. [/QUOTE]
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