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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 180819" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>FWIW, DEX walked the line with abuse with difficult child 1. So did his bio mom. Probably crossed it more than once. And like Fran said, I know both difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 knew they could not live up to the expectations that are placed on them in certain situations.</p><p>***</p><p>I have always demanded difficult child 1 treat people respectfully regardless of their history with them. If they call, he can tell them he needs to go and cut the conversation short, but he can not hang up on them, etc. But being "respectful" doesn't mean they're welcome in your personal space. I'd let him define the relationship from here. Being 17, he's still young enough that you can sort of guide and help, but certainly old enough to know how he feels. After time, he may come around and have some sort of relationship with them, but it will have to be on his terms.</p><p>***</p><p>If you want to have them to dinner, take them out, or give difficult child movie money while you have them in. I wouldn't force this.</p><p>***</p><p>Hugs. You don't need this right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 180819, member: 1848"] FWIW, DEX walked the line with abuse with difficult child 1. So did his bio mom. Probably crossed it more than once. And like Fran said, I know both difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 knew they could not live up to the expectations that are placed on them in certain situations. *** I have always demanded difficult child 1 treat people respectfully regardless of their history with them. If they call, he can tell them he needs to go and cut the conversation short, but he can not hang up on them, etc. But being "respectful" doesn't mean they're welcome in your personal space. I'd let him define the relationship from here. Being 17, he's still young enough that you can sort of guide and help, but certainly old enough to know how he feels. After time, he may come around and have some sort of relationship with them, but it will have to be on his terms. *** If you want to have them to dinner, take them out, or give difficult child movie money while you have them in. I wouldn't force this. *** Hugs. You don't need this right now. [/QUOTE]
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