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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 27115" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Kris, I was thinking that too. At least it shows you are doing what you can to help her have contact with her mother. And if absence makes the heart grow fonder and allows difficult child to build this fantasy about her mother, seeing her regularly may short-circuit that.</p><p></p><p>Also, I wouldn't be too critical of the mother in terms of not being sufficiently motivated to get off drugs - it takes a lot more than motivation and willpower. Once the drugs have you hooked it's hard to get off them. Almost impossible while you're in jail. There are too many other factors. Being weak and an addict doesn't mean she doesn't love her daughter; it just means she's not coping in many other ways.</p><p></p><p>Drug addicts are really good at denial and self-deception. Sounds like difficult child has the same ability. If a regular jail visit (made necessary by her bio-mum's habit) can give difficult child a dose of reality, it should stand her in good stead later on, she will have a less glamorous view of drugs and where they put you.</p><p></p><p>Not an easy one for you, I think you handled it well.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 27115, member: 1991"] Kris, I was thinking that too. At least it shows you are doing what you can to help her have contact with her mother. And if absence makes the heart grow fonder and allows difficult child to build this fantasy about her mother, seeing her regularly may short-circuit that. Also, I wouldn't be too critical of the mother in terms of not being sufficiently motivated to get off drugs - it takes a lot more than motivation and willpower. Once the drugs have you hooked it's hard to get off them. Almost impossible while you're in jail. There are too many other factors. Being weak and an addict doesn't mean she doesn't love her daughter; it just means she's not coping in many other ways. Drug addicts are really good at denial and self-deception. Sounds like difficult child has the same ability. If a regular jail visit (made necessary by her bio-mum's habit) can give difficult child a dose of reality, it should stand her in good stead later on, she will have a less glamorous view of drugs and where they put you. Not an easy one for you, I think you handled it well. Marg [/QUOTE]
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