HWGA, sorry to hear that things are "frosty" on the home front.
I think sometimes parents come to detachment at different paces, and it's really hard when one person is farther along the path than the other one.
With all the chaos that difficult children bring into our lives, I think sometimes the peace becomes scary, and we need to inject some chaos and yelling, just to feel normal (or at least familiar).
I can understand why it would slip your mind. For the first time in a long time, you have peace and quiet, and you were in the midst of doing one of those quiet, calm, almost hypnotic tasks. (for me, washing the car, ironing etc. are bringing order to chaos, and I can totally get lost in them).
Yes, it was wrong to miss the appointment, but I wonder if your wife is going through a bit of drama-withdrawal, if you will.
Hope that things settle down soon.
Trinity
