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difficult child in foster care and tonights another another visitation/i'm nervous.
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<blockquote data-quote="barneysmom" data-source="post: 378831" data-attributes="member: 1872"><p>Jody -- perfectly normal. I dreaded gfg17 coming home and worked actively against it even when he was getting better. I had to pushed -- almost to be confronted -- to make up my mind about whether or not I could accept the idea of him coming home. </p><p></p><p>It turns out he is doing OK, but that's not really the point. The point is your feelings are normal and healthy and you don't want to be traumatized again. The only thing I can suggest is that we can use some of this time to build ourselves up so we don't feel like victims again. Unfortunately I had to spend a lot of time doing that while difficult child was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because I had become so traumatized. Well, I didn't have to, I chose to. We had home-based family therapy while difficult child was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and that really helped. We talked about our feelings about difficult child, looked at our own roles in what was going on (not in a blaming way) and made a safety plan for what to do in a crisis when he came home. All kids who go to this Residential Treatment Center (RTC) have home-based in place for when they come home, and it starts before they come home. </p><p></p><p>Take care. It's a slow process. </p><p></p><p>Jo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="barneysmom, post: 378831, member: 1872"] Jody -- perfectly normal. I dreaded gfg17 coming home and worked actively against it even when he was getting better. I had to pushed -- almost to be confronted -- to make up my mind about whether or not I could accept the idea of him coming home. It turns out he is doing OK, but that's not really the point. The point is your feelings are normal and healthy and you don't want to be traumatized again. The only thing I can suggest is that we can use some of this time to build ourselves up so we don't feel like victims again. Unfortunately I had to spend a lot of time doing that while difficult child was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because I had become so traumatized. Well, I didn't have to, I chose to. We had home-based family therapy while difficult child was in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and that really helped. We talked about our feelings about difficult child, looked at our own roles in what was going on (not in a blaming way) and made a safety plan for what to do in a crisis when he came home. All kids who go to this Residential Treatment Center (RTC) have home-based in place for when they come home, and it starts before they come home. Take care. It's a slow process. Jo [/QUOTE]
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