wheredidmylittleguygo
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The two week freeze means he can't come home for the next two weekends. This is really a blow for both difficult child and myself. This weekend he was supposed to start his 48 hour visits.
He came home last weekend for the first time in two weeks because he was on another "freeze" for fighting.
He kept telling me how he hated being on a freeze and he never wanted to do this again. Well today he wanted the teachers at school to switch him to another class because he doesn't get along with some kid. The teachers didn't give him the answer he wanted and so he started to demand it. They sent him to the counselors office where he demanded it from the counselors. Obviously the counselors aren't going to be ordered around by a 13 year old having a temper tantrum.
Then he tore up his office referral and when the staff wouldn't give in to his demands he tore up every piece of paper he could get his hands on. They restrained him and sent him to "time out" basically a padded little room where he can't hurt anything. They took pictures and showed me when I got there. It looked like his room when he went into rages at home. The pictures are also a part of his file and the judge can view them when and if he's sent back to court.
difficult child being in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is the best thing for both of us right now. Because it wasn't my home he was destroying and me he was threatening I was able to remain calm and talk to him about his behavior. He still thinks his actions are justified by the fact that "they made him mad" or "they didn't give me what I wanted". Towards the end of our visit he was disrespectful towards me and began to curse. I simply got up and walked away. He followed me saying, "I don't want you to go, I wanna talk aobut this." He basically wanted me to get him out of trouble. I told him very calmly and in a neutral voice that he was not going to get his way and if he still wants to talk to me then I'll stay. He agreed and I added that I would not be disrespected or cursed at during this conversation. Again he agreed and we spoke for about 10 minutes. He didn't say much but it was nice to end it on a better note.
My question for all you veterans of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is will this get better? Is this typical acting out? He did a lot of the same things at home and I think it helps for him to do it there and receive consequences for it. I gave him consequences at home but I don't have 3 big guys to call for back up when he's raging.
He came home last weekend for the first time in two weeks because he was on another "freeze" for fighting.
He kept telling me how he hated being on a freeze and he never wanted to do this again. Well today he wanted the teachers at school to switch him to another class because he doesn't get along with some kid. The teachers didn't give him the answer he wanted and so he started to demand it. They sent him to the counselors office where he demanded it from the counselors. Obviously the counselors aren't going to be ordered around by a 13 year old having a temper tantrum.
Then he tore up his office referral and when the staff wouldn't give in to his demands he tore up every piece of paper he could get his hands on. They restrained him and sent him to "time out" basically a padded little room where he can't hurt anything. They took pictures and showed me when I got there. It looked like his room when he went into rages at home. The pictures are also a part of his file and the judge can view them when and if he's sent back to court.
difficult child being in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is the best thing for both of us right now. Because it wasn't my home he was destroying and me he was threatening I was able to remain calm and talk to him about his behavior. He still thinks his actions are justified by the fact that "they made him mad" or "they didn't give me what I wanted". Towards the end of our visit he was disrespectful towards me and began to curse. I simply got up and walked away. He followed me saying, "I don't want you to go, I wanna talk aobut this." He basically wanted me to get him out of trouble. I told him very calmly and in a neutral voice that he was not going to get his way and if he still wants to talk to me then I'll stay. He agreed and I added that I would not be disrespected or cursed at during this conversation. Again he agreed and we spoke for about 10 minutes. He didn't say much but it was nice to end it on a better note.
My question for all you veterans of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is will this get better? Is this typical acting out? He did a lot of the same things at home and I think it helps for him to do it there and receive consequences for it. I gave him consequences at home but I don't have 3 big guys to call for back up when he's raging.