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difficult child in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) gets another 2 week freeze
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<blockquote data-quote="wheredidmylittleguygo" data-source="post: 23070" data-attributes="member: 3182"><p>Thank you all for the words of advice and encouragement. difficult child's counselor talked about kids that just go through the motions of the program and the kids who really open up and let it in. You all really helped to make that point with me. There is nothing I can do to "make" him open up. I hope he does open up and really change his life.</p><p></p><p>Janet, I always felt like when he got in trouble I was in trouble. Except I truly felt like the trouble was worse for me. My boss would be mad at me for leaving work early and unexpectedly. The school would talk to me like I was an idiot. I was totally embarressed and stressed out. This was such a detached thing. He raged, he got consequenced, I went home to a quiet house. Works for me.</p><p></p><p>Sharon, I never thought about how it helps Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to deal with our kids but you're right. Every treatment isn't for every kid. My difficult child had a big honeymoon phase. I got the feeling that the staff didn't really believe he'd done all the things in the parent report & court papers.</p><p></p><p>Kris, I hope he's able to give up the control. It seems to be the key to everything. Maybe last night was a *get it* moment. Let's hope this opens the door.</p><p></p><p>Sue, I know what you mean about difficult child's waiting for the rescue. Unfortunately my difficult child has had a whole life time of me rescuing him and now he really feels betrayed. I think Love & Logic calls that a "helicopter parent". My difficult child's been rescued so many times he's wind blown.</p><p></p><p>Linda, you're right the best part is that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) gets to dole out the consequences. difficult child doesn't respect my authority one bit. The night he was arrested stemmed from a fight about losing his TV for a week. </p><p></p><p>I think the best part about yesterday was that I was able to stand up for myself and tell him he cannot treat me like that. I'm talking about when he turned his anger towards me at the end of the visit. I have to admit. I only felt safe doing that because we were at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). 3 big guys were only a radio call away.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wheredidmylittleguygo, post: 23070, member: 3182"] Thank you all for the words of advice and encouragement. difficult child's counselor talked about kids that just go through the motions of the program and the kids who really open up and let it in. You all really helped to make that point with me. There is nothing I can do to "make" him open up. I hope he does open up and really change his life. Janet, I always felt like when he got in trouble I was in trouble. Except I truly felt like the trouble was worse for me. My boss would be mad at me for leaving work early and unexpectedly. The school would talk to me like I was an idiot. I was totally embarressed and stressed out. This was such a detached thing. He raged, he got consequenced, I went home to a quiet house. Works for me. Sharon, I never thought about how it helps Residential Treatment Center (RTC) to deal with our kids but you're right. Every treatment isn't for every kid. My difficult child had a big honeymoon phase. I got the feeling that the staff didn't really believe he'd done all the things in the parent report & court papers. Kris, I hope he's able to give up the control. It seems to be the key to everything. Maybe last night was a *get it* moment. Let's hope this opens the door. Sue, I know what you mean about difficult child's waiting for the rescue. Unfortunately my difficult child has had a whole life time of me rescuing him and now he really feels betrayed. I think Love & Logic calls that a "helicopter parent". My difficult child's been rescued so many times he's wind blown. Linda, you're right the best part is that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) gets to dole out the consequences. difficult child doesn't respect my authority one bit. The night he was arrested stemmed from a fight about losing his TV for a week. I think the best part about yesterday was that I was able to stand up for myself and tell him he cannot treat me like that. I'm talking about when he turned his anger towards me at the end of the visit. I have to admit. I only felt safe doing that because we were at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). 3 big guys were only a radio call away. [/QUOTE]
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