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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 582285" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Wow, Payla, good work! He's helping himself so you're helping him, that's a good plan. Remember this phrase that always helps me, 'loving kindness feels good, enabling feels bad.' He will have to follow the rules, attend groups and work which sounds like the first time he is willing to follow a program to help himself. I know it's hard, but it's a beginning and it's likely come about because of your unwillingness to enable him any longer. You've done a really good job over many months and I understand how difficult it's been, but now perhaps he at least has a chance. If he blows this, that's his choice, not yours. He has to wake up from this nightmare he lives in in order to have any kind of life. There are thousands of stories of people who are at rock bottom and turn their lives around. He could be one of those people. I will say a prayer for him, I hope he takes this opportunity and gets a life.............hugs...........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 582285, member: 13542"] Wow, Payla, good work! He's helping himself so you're helping him, that's a good plan. Remember this phrase that always helps me, 'loving kindness feels good, enabling feels bad.' He will have to follow the rules, attend groups and work which sounds like the first time he is willing to follow a program to help himself. I know it's hard, but it's a beginning and it's likely come about because of your unwillingness to enable him any longer. You've done a really good job over many months and I understand how difficult it's been, but now perhaps he at least has a chance. If he blows this, that's his choice, not yours. He has to wake up from this nightmare he lives in in order to have any kind of life. There are thousands of stories of people who are at rock bottom and turn their lives around. He could be one of those people. I will say a prayer for him, I hope he takes this opportunity and gets a life.............hugs........... [/QUOTE]
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