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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 352228" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I don't think so because I have NO control whatsoever about how a PO handles a situation or how a judge rules and difficult child has enough history with that place to realize that- so maybe I should say I don't think the stuff was to manipulate the system thru me, but it could have been show to try to get sympathy maybe- it didn't work. I have seen a difference in him since Sunday but he clearly wasn't happy but it wouldn't have been appropriate to be. I'm thinking maybe the mentor gave him some hope- which in a way seems like rewarding bad behavior but since the mentor is just starting and needs to establish a relationship with difficult child, I'm not sure there was much choice. The PO is staying in touch with the company, if not the mentor himself, so I'm not going to interfere with how they work as long as I have no drastic concerns and they aren't making things worse. Yes- they do background checks. That was the first thing I asked PO and the one thing I stressed to the company and PO both. The second was just not taking difficult child out for long periods on the two nights during the week when he's likely to have the most homework- of course that can be flexible if we have more critical things to deal with. Unfortunately, they aren't tdocs (but are called therapeutic mentors??) but are trained somehow to help a difficult child more than a typical mentor, supposedly. This company's mentoring service specializes in difficult child's transitioning back into the community after being released from a Department of Juvenile Justice facility or behavior oriented group home- and they run one of those group homes, too. I tried to get something that would have a mentor with more therapeutic training but of course, Department of Juvenile Justice funding won't cover that- that would shift over to requiring in-home services and back to where we started- if a kid with charges or in the legal system for prior arrests, the funding for in-home means MST and that's the same guy we had 2 years ago.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 352228, member: 3699"] I don't think so because I have NO control whatsoever about how a PO handles a situation or how a judge rules and difficult child has enough history with that place to realize that- so maybe I should say I don't think the stuff was to manipulate the system thru me, but it could have been show to try to get sympathy maybe- it didn't work. I have seen a difference in him since Sunday but he clearly wasn't happy but it wouldn't have been appropriate to be. I'm thinking maybe the mentor gave him some hope- which in a way seems like rewarding bad behavior but since the mentor is just starting and needs to establish a relationship with difficult child, I'm not sure there was much choice. The PO is staying in touch with the company, if not the mentor himself, so I'm not going to interfere with how they work as long as I have no drastic concerns and they aren't making things worse. Yes- they do background checks. That was the first thing I asked PO and the one thing I stressed to the company and PO both. The second was just not taking difficult child out for long periods on the two nights during the week when he's likely to have the most homework- of course that can be flexible if we have more critical things to deal with. Unfortunately, they aren't tdocs (but are called therapeutic mentors??) but are trained somehow to help a difficult child more than a typical mentor, supposedly. This company's mentoring service specializes in difficult child's transitioning back into the community after being released from a Department of Juvenile Justice facility or behavior oriented group home- and they run one of those group homes, too. I tried to get something that would have a mentor with more therapeutic training but of course, Department of Juvenile Justice funding won't cover that- that would shift over to requiring in-home services and back to where we started- if a kid with charges or in the legal system for prior arrests, the funding for in-home means MST and that's the same guy we had 2 years ago. [/QUOTE]
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