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difficult child is back in jail....and God it is depressing
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 621443" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Had enough,</p><p></p><p>I feel your pain and aching sadness. It is so hard to stay up all night wondering what you did wrong, and fearing for your child. We all have been there, and likely will go there again.</p><p></p><p>All I can say now is...you ARE strong enough. We know what you have done, and being a mom to a easy child is hard enough, being a mom to a difficult child is HARD.</p><p></p><p>My first post on the forum revolved around my own new and relieving thoughts that if my son died on the streets I would simply kill myself...that seemed like the brilliant answer to "what will I do??" </p><p></p><p>I am far from that place now, and you will be too.</p><p></p><p>It is a funny dichotomy , isn't it? You feel like you have to intervene and help your son or somehow impact or take control because he can't possibly manage without you..and yet...you are willing to consider driving off the road, which definitely will not help a single soul in cluding you.</p><p></p><p>You know most people who are saved from suicide attempts never try again, right? We all really want to live and be happy. You too can live and be happy. So can your difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I see that difficult child has been trying and that is great. One thing that our difficult child's have in common is that they lack the ability to persevere..and he hasn't been trying very long! and don't forget...he did the one thing (that you know of) that was sure to get him caught and in trouble again, because he knows he will be tested and we all know that marijuana tests positive for a long long time. So he knew, and he did it anyway. He created this. It won't help to minimize that or try to make it go away. He knew the rules and he broke them because he thought he could get away with it. Now the "system" is doing exactly what it promised it would.</p><p></p><p>We all live in a system called community, society. Your difficult child sounds like some one who can learn to fit in well..he is young and he shows promise. Let him deal with the consequences of his choices, both good and bad. That is how he will become a man.</p><p></p><p>Hugs today in your place of sadness. It will get light again. It always does. </p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 621443, member: 17269"] Had enough, I feel your pain and aching sadness. It is so hard to stay up all night wondering what you did wrong, and fearing for your child. We all have been there, and likely will go there again. All I can say now is...you ARE strong enough. We know what you have done, and being a mom to a easy child is hard enough, being a mom to a difficult child is HARD. My first post on the forum revolved around my own new and relieving thoughts that if my son died on the streets I would simply kill myself...that seemed like the brilliant answer to "what will I do??" I am far from that place now, and you will be too. It is a funny dichotomy , isn't it? You feel like you have to intervene and help your son or somehow impact or take control because he can't possibly manage without you..and yet...you are willing to consider driving off the road, which definitely will not help a single soul in cluding you. You know most people who are saved from suicide attempts never try again, right? We all really want to live and be happy. You too can live and be happy. So can your difficult child. I see that difficult child has been trying and that is great. One thing that our difficult child's have in common is that they lack the ability to persevere..and he hasn't been trying very long! and don't forget...he did the one thing (that you know of) that was sure to get him caught and in trouble again, because he knows he will be tested and we all know that marijuana tests positive for a long long time. So he knew, and he did it anyway. He created this. It won't help to minimize that or try to make it go away. He knew the rules and he broke them because he thought he could get away with it. Now the "system" is doing exactly what it promised it would. We all live in a system called community, society. Your difficult child sounds like some one who can learn to fit in well..he is young and he shows promise. Let him deal with the consequences of his choices, both good and bad. That is how he will become a man. Hugs today in your place of sadness. It will get light again. It always does. Echo [/QUOTE]
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