Since my illness, difficult child has been doing very well. We have only had a couple of meltdowns/rages, and only one has been significant. I really think that my improved health is making a big impact on my ability to parent her, thus seeing less meltdowns. I took difficult child to the pediatrician over a week ago for a sinus infection and ear infection. She was given antibiotics. She has been sleeping upwards of 16 hours a day since. We went back to the doctor yesterday and they did bloodwork to check for mono (dr said they have been seeing that lately...just to keep that in mind, ladies), anemia and they checked her thyroid. Everything came back normal and negative on the mono. The last couple of nights have been somewhat rough. difficult child more angry, feeling more helpless and worthless. That coupled with the hypersomnia, I'd say she's depressed and her pediatrician agrees. difficult child refuses to take her medications and refuses to participate in therapy. I'm still dealing with this stupid allergic reaction and benadryl makes me sleep for hours and hours. I'm trying not to take it, but when the hives start I don't have a choice. That certainly doesn't help difficult child any as she feeds off me so much. When difficult child gets this way, she just becomes very helpless and has this "there is nothing I or anyone can do" attitude. Certainly nothing mom can do, cause mom doesn't know anything. It's hard to help someone who refuses to help herself. I can't seem to engage her no matter how I try. She seems to be either angry or asleep. She has never been a kid that one can reason with. Especially not in this state. She refuses the medications because she says they don't work. They do, but she doesn't see it or doesn't want to see it. I suggested she keep a daily feelings journal. Start it before the medications and continue after so that she could look back and see if there was any difference. Of course, that might prove her wrong so that's not a good idea in her book. She's not open to anything that involves taking the medications. She says therapy just makes her feel worse, although she enjoys it when she's there, she likes her therapist and I have noticed an increase in her coping skills. She just doesn't like to do these things because she doesn't like what they imply. She's always saying (usually sobbing) that there is nothing wrong with her. I've explained that these things certainly don't mean that there is anything wrong with her, but that some of us need a little extra help in dealing with things. Just like I explained her pull out to a small math class was because everyone learns differently and this class teaches it the way she learns. With her depression, her anxiety is also off the charts and she's feeling sick all the time. Her doctor gave me a rx for her for nausea. I think a placebo would be just as effective, honestly. She's very open to suggestion. If you tell her something will do something, it will for her. Any ideas on what I can try?