But you knew she didn't want to work.
If you really mean what you say, cut off her money. Then she'll have to work or be very bored. No gas money. No insurance for gas. No cell phone. Yes, she was will whine and cry and be abusive and maybe even threaten harm to you or herself for manipulation purposes because, like all of our difficult children, she is emotionally maybe eight to ten years old and when you take candy from a baby unless they clean their room, a difficult child child will throw a fit. A easy child child will clean his room.
But the more time that goes by and she thinks you owe her the same comforts she had as a child, the harder it will be for her to understand adult life and the more stuck she will get. I can't imagine giving money to a grown kid who won't go to college or work and just wants to go out each night with my car on my dime. Everyone is different, of course, but do you think that is the best way for your adult child to learn how to be responsible? She already thinks she runs things. But life isn't like that...
Hugs and good luck.
