I think that is the core of the issue, dist. That kind of thing is what our difficult children do. That is the thing that is different about them.
They blame someone for what they do, and for where what they do gets them.
True. It is so hurtful to love them, and teach them, and do the things that another kind of child would thrive on, and have it all come to nothing.
Do you know what her goals are? If she were to go back to school, what would she major in? difficult child son was told he needed either to work or go back to school. He slid into a community college at the last minute, knew more than any instructor, and failed every class.
Here it comes: Our fault.
difficult child son is 38 now, and he still feels that way.
I don't know what to make of it all, except that if we had not stood up and stuck to our guns about difficult child needing to leave, he would probably still be here.
It cost us several thousand dollars for him to leave.
And it was worth every penny.
But it was a hard thing, to understand that no matter what we did, difficult child would fail at it, and turn it into something ugly that we did.
Boy, I never in all the world dreamed this would be the outcome of my life with my children.
Holding a good thought for all of you, dist 99.
Cedar
