The only thing that I can tell you, is just keep in mind that this is NOT your fault. As has been stated before, I have a 13 year old daughter that is no longer in the home due to stealing. And at first I blamed myself, for not doing a better job to lead her away from such actions. Turns out, she has had a history of it before she moved into our house (I posted our "situation" on another post) ... And now she is with a "foster" parent, who is a trained professional in dealing with childern like her. However, since going in, she has stolen from her as well. So who knows how it will all turn out, but the most important thing to realize is that this is the CHILDS choice and problems, not your own. If you can look yourself in the mirror and be honest and say you did the best you could, they just made the wrong choices, than at the end of the day, that is all we really can do. My thoughts and prayers are with you.