I was at lunch today with a friend and I got a text from difficult child asking if I could transfer $20 into her bank account so she could buy lunch. She worked today 8-7 and had no money to get lunch and only has $18 in her bank account. I told her I was not able to do that right now and she should go into the bank and get out what she could and she should call us after work to discuss her finances.
So at 7:05 she called husband and told him she was out of money and wasn't getting paid until Dec 1. He asked her what she was asking for and she didn't know so he told her to go home and write down what she thought she needed to get by until payday and call him back and he would see if he could help. So she called and told him what days she was working and how much she needed to eat and pay for gas and asked if he could give her $90. He told her we would transfer $50 into her account and since she was coming home for thanksgiving we would give her leftovers which would hold her over a couple days and then if she needed more she could ask.
On one hand I wanted to tell her no, that she should stop smoking and she would save a lot of money and that she has to stop driving everyone around to save gas, but on the other hand I was glad she called us instead of stealing food or things to sell for money which she would have done last year, or worse go work in a strip club for fast bucks.
I don't know how long we can keep giving her financial help but I don't know what else to do.
Nancy
So at 7:05 she called husband and told him she was out of money and wasn't getting paid until Dec 1. He asked her what she was asking for and she didn't know so he told her to go home and write down what she thought she needed to get by until payday and call him back and he would see if he could help. So she called and told him what days she was working and how much she needed to eat and pay for gas and asked if he could give her $90. He told her we would transfer $50 into her account and since she was coming home for thanksgiving we would give her leftovers which would hold her over a couple days and then if she needed more she could ask.
On one hand I wanted to tell her no, that she should stop smoking and she would save a lot of money and that she has to stop driving everyone around to save gas, but on the other hand I was glad she called us instead of stealing food or things to sell for money which she would have done last year, or worse go work in a strip club for fast bucks.
I don't know how long we can keep giving her financial help but I don't know what else to do.
Nancy