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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy423" data-source="post: 225095" data-attributes="member: 6118"><p>After my difficult child had her episode in class and came back after suspension. I was told at the IEP meeting that the other kids in class are scared of her. The first thing that popped into my head was "you waiting until NOW to tell me this???" but to tell you the truth, I didn't think about transitioning her back into the classroom. I didn't think about what damage was done to the other kids in class. NEVER even considered that they might have problems with her. Like you, I thought they'd just forgive and forget and everything would be back to normal the day she went back to school. No, all I thought about was the stuff we'd just gone thru and how it affected difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>I suppose it's a bit selfish in a way to think this way, but I am starting to believe that we're conditioned to it now. We fight so hard and seems like all we ever do is soemthing <em>for</em> difficult child. This opened my eyes to start thinking about everyone else that is affected. So even though i <em>don't</em> want to hear how the other people are affected, I <em>need</em> to hear it. and I am now wondering how to teach difficult child to understand the effects she has on everyone around her. How the episode hurts her friends and teachers. She may not ever "get" it, or may not remember it when an episode hits, but I need to try to get thru to her.</p><p> </p><p>So no, I am like you. I don't want to hear someone telling me my child is the worst. But if he has to earn the trust of his follow housemates, then this just might be the turning point. Make use of the info you're given and see if there is anyway you two could come up with something to change his peer's view of him.</p><p> </p><p>lots of ((HUGS)) to both of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy423, post: 225095, member: 6118"] After my difficult child had her episode in class and came back after suspension. I was told at the IEP meeting that the other kids in class are scared of her. The first thing that popped into my head was "you waiting until NOW to tell me this???" but to tell you the truth, I didn't think about transitioning her back into the classroom. I didn't think about what damage was done to the other kids in class. NEVER even considered that they might have problems with her. Like you, I thought they'd just forgive and forget and everything would be back to normal the day she went back to school. No, all I thought about was the stuff we'd just gone thru and how it affected difficult child. I suppose it's a bit selfish in a way to think this way, but I am starting to believe that we're conditioned to it now. We fight so hard and seems like all we ever do is soemthing [I]for[/I] difficult child. This opened my eyes to start thinking about everyone else that is affected. So even though i [I]don't[/I] want to hear how the other people are affected, I [I]need[/I] to hear it. and I am now wondering how to teach difficult child to understand the effects she has on everyone around her. How the episode hurts her friends and teachers. She may not ever "get" it, or may not remember it when an episode hits, but I need to try to get thru to her. So no, I am like you. I don't want to hear someone telling me my child is the worst. But if he has to earn the trust of his follow housemates, then this just might be the turning point. Make use of the info you're given and see if there is anyway you two could come up with something to change his peer's view of him. lots of ((HUGS)) to both of you. [/QUOTE]
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