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<blockquote data-quote="jeanne in CA" data-source="post: 627695" data-attributes="member: 18036"><p>Hi JFK, I am so sorry to hear about your problems. My parents are both gone and I cannot imagine the horror of having our difficult child hurting them like yours is hurting your dad. </p><p> </p><p>On the other hand, as awful as it may be to contemplate, maybe it is best if he does come to NJ where you probably have the best opportunity to protech both you and your dad. I agree with the advice here. If it were me I would do the following: </p><p> </p><p>1. absolutely refuse to respond to any communication from him regardless of what he says, 2. follow up on the restraining order using the texts, emails, and voice mail messages as evidence of harrassment, 3. See if the police will do a preemptive strike and warn him not to try to contact you, 4. Get copies of the communcations he sent to your dad and check into a restraining order for your dad also. 5. Change the locks and/or get an alarm system and USE it. (Like dummies, we failed to use ours) 6. Make sure he has no access to your mail box where he can intercept mail and steal checks, etc. (Ask me how I know about this.)</p><p>7. Consider advising the neighbors/neighborhood watch if applicable. 8. Make sure all your passwords and ids are absolutely unbreakable. (again, personal experience) 9. Think about installing security cameras if at all possible. 10. Put yourself first regardless of what he does. </p><p> </p><p>Sending caring thoughts your way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jeanne in CA, post: 627695, member: 18036"] Hi JFK, I am so sorry to hear about your problems. My parents are both gone and I cannot imagine the horror of having our difficult child hurting them like yours is hurting your dad. On the other hand, as awful as it may be to contemplate, maybe it is best if he does come to NJ where you probably have the best opportunity to protech both you and your dad. I agree with the advice here. If it were me I would do the following: 1. absolutely refuse to respond to any communication from him regardless of what he says, 2. follow up on the restraining order using the texts, emails, and voice mail messages as evidence of harrassment, 3. See if the police will do a preemptive strike and warn him not to try to contact you, 4. Get copies of the communcations he sent to your dad and check into a restraining order for your dad also. 5. Change the locks and/or get an alarm system and USE it. (Like dummies, we failed to use ours) 6. Make sure he has no access to your mail box where he can intercept mail and steal checks, etc. (Ask me how I know about this.) 7. Consider advising the neighbors/neighborhood watch if applicable. 8. Make sure all your passwords and ids are absolutely unbreakable. (again, personal experience) 9. Think about installing security cameras if at all possible. 10. Put yourself first regardless of what he does. Sending caring thoughts your way. [/QUOTE]
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