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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 215600" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Poor thing - yet one thing I heard in this is that she is starting to recognize that something is going on (something is wrong with me, make it stop). It may still be very faint for her, but she is getting older and is beginning to see that other people do not go through what she goes through.</p><p></p><p>She may have held on so tight to the anxiety this a.m. on her way to the dermitologist and then it all let loose.</p><p></p><p>The meltdowns also scare her which adds to more anxiety.</p><p></p><p>Try your very hardest to not let her see your fears. I know that the holidays are all around. Maybe take one thing each day (decorations, music, presents, special foods, cards in the mail) and talk to her about it. Explain how that one item adds to the holiday and ask that she look for that one thing for that day (or two or three days). That may help her to focus (seek out one item) and not get overwhelmed with the entire picture. </p><p></p><p>I would start with asking her about the plans of other kids in school. "difficult child, are the other kids in school getting excited about the holidays? Do you feel that they behave differently? Do they talk about different things? What are the kids talking about today?" Their conversations might be overwhelming her and if she told you about it, you may be able to help her process it. Then on weekends, focus on other things - ask her if she has favorite Christmas music and maybe go get a CD of it. If she hears her favorite seasonal music every day, that might help?</p><p></p><p>I don't know - I am just throwing out unfounded ideas. A medication check does seem in order.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 215600, member: 5096"] Poor thing - yet one thing I heard in this is that she is starting to recognize that something is going on (something is wrong with me, make it stop). It may still be very faint for her, but she is getting older and is beginning to see that other people do not go through what she goes through. She may have held on so tight to the anxiety this a.m. on her way to the dermitologist and then it all let loose. The meltdowns also scare her which adds to more anxiety. Try your very hardest to not let her see your fears. I know that the holidays are all around. Maybe take one thing each day (decorations, music, presents, special foods, cards in the mail) and talk to her about it. Explain how that one item adds to the holiday and ask that she look for that one thing for that day (or two or three days). That may help her to focus (seek out one item) and not get overwhelmed with the entire picture. I would start with asking her about the plans of other kids in school. "difficult child, are the other kids in school getting excited about the holidays? Do you feel that they behave differently? Do they talk about different things? What are the kids talking about today?" Their conversations might be overwhelming her and if she told you about it, you may be able to help her process it. Then on weekends, focus on other things - ask her if she has favorite Christmas music and maybe go get a CD of it. If she hears her favorite seasonal music every day, that might help? I don't know - I am just throwing out unfounded ideas. A medication check does seem in order. [/QUOTE]
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