It started out to be a good day. One of his teachers emailed me and told me that he made plans to meet with her before school and on his study hall to get the extra help he needs and make-up missing tests. He has been going to school early to do make-up work for another class. I'm feeling happy-difficult child is finally taking some responsiblity for himself. I email teacher back thanking her for her time and effort and assure her that he will be there early tomorrow...NOT.
Five minutes later difficult child calls me from the AP's office. He's upset, on the verge of breaking down in tears. He tells me that he's been suspended for fighting. I talk to AP a bit and I pick up difficult child.
Apparently a group of kids said some derogatory things to difficult child (I have yet to find out what was exactly said)and they continued to harrass him during lunch. Mainly one kid, who was being encouraged by others. It sounds like the kid was following difficult child around taunting him. difficult child let loose-two lunchroom supervisors tried to break it up. difficult child admitted to me that he was pushing them away trying to get at the kid who was trying to get away. OMG. difficult child has had several physical fights with peers in the past, mainly in middle school. But he NEVER before touched another adult (except parents-when he was younger). This alone tells me that he was over the edge.
difficult child and the other boy are both sent to the office. While there, a group of kids (friends of the other difficult child)were taunting my difficult child at the window. He tore out of the office after them again. School cop is called and they were ready to handcuff my difficult child and arrest him. He settles down and they take him back to the office.
When we get home, difficult child's head is hanging low. Tears streamed down his face and he mutters that "he didn't want to be pulled into this BS drama again. I'm smarter than this" He is certain that this is just the beginning and he told AP the same.
Both difficult child's were suspended out of school tomorrow too and they received $108 fines.
It concerns me that my difficult child lost control to this degree. Aggression and anger management are issues that he struggled to control for a long time. He has not lost control like this in years. But I have to say that I am encouraged by his attitude afterward. The old difficult child would've been bragging about the situtation to his friends and possibly was even the instigator. I overheard him tonight on the phone relaying the incident to a friend. He didn't sound boastful at all. He sounded frustrated that he was "just minding his own business" when all of this came down on him. His friend must've made a comment about almost being cuffed and arrested. difficult child wasn't boastful about this either "No, man. I was p.o."
Another example of how badly it feels for difficult child's when they lose control.
Five minutes later difficult child calls me from the AP's office. He's upset, on the verge of breaking down in tears. He tells me that he's been suspended for fighting. I talk to AP a bit and I pick up difficult child.
Apparently a group of kids said some derogatory things to difficult child (I have yet to find out what was exactly said)and they continued to harrass him during lunch. Mainly one kid, who was being encouraged by others. It sounds like the kid was following difficult child around taunting him. difficult child let loose-two lunchroom supervisors tried to break it up. difficult child admitted to me that he was pushing them away trying to get at the kid who was trying to get away. OMG. difficult child has had several physical fights with peers in the past, mainly in middle school. But he NEVER before touched another adult (except parents-when he was younger). This alone tells me that he was over the edge.
difficult child and the other boy are both sent to the office. While there, a group of kids (friends of the other difficult child)were taunting my difficult child at the window. He tore out of the office after them again. School cop is called and they were ready to handcuff my difficult child and arrest him. He settles down and they take him back to the office.
When we get home, difficult child's head is hanging low. Tears streamed down his face and he mutters that "he didn't want to be pulled into this BS drama again. I'm smarter than this" He is certain that this is just the beginning and he told AP the same.
Both difficult child's were suspended out of school tomorrow too and they received $108 fines.
It concerns me that my difficult child lost control to this degree. Aggression and anger management are issues that he struggled to control for a long time. He has not lost control like this in years. But I have to say that I am encouraged by his attitude afterward. The old difficult child would've been bragging about the situtation to his friends and possibly was even the instigator. I overheard him tonight on the phone relaying the incident to a friend. He didn't sound boastful at all. He sounded frustrated that he was "just minding his own business" when all of this came down on him. His friend must've made a comment about almost being cuffed and arrested. difficult child wasn't boastful about this either "No, man. I was p.o."
Another example of how badly it feels for difficult child's when they lose control.
