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<blockquote data-quote="Sunlight" data-source="post: 607022" data-attributes="member: 97"><p>LOL Tammy...I spent a lot of time here...joined when Ant was only 16...about 1999. Then we had a board glitch and we all got the same start year. lmao! Ant has not been arrested for over 7 years. A record in getting records, if you get my drift. When he was under 18, I had to get in there and fight for and against him depending on the situation. Once he turned 18, I felt I had done all I could. He knows right from wrong. He turned into an adult and like I always say, he never listened to a word I said from the time he was born.</p><p></p><p>I have to say, that the person who changed first was me. I was sad- then mad- then determined that I could have a better life. I could not let his choices determine my mood du jour. Gosh it was a painful journey. In any case, we all know they can slip back into misery at an impulsive moment...but we have to be ready to be stronger ourselves. While he was in jails/and then prison...I learned to let go more, with the help and support of other prisoners' parents, and my faith.</p><p></p><p>I am not married...so no husband. LOL I am still with the same boyfriend of 9 yrs and we got engaged last month. He bought me a chocolate and vanilla diamond ring and proposed. BUT I did not say yes. LMAO! I am still scared to marry but we have lived together 5 yrs. He is ok with it, and I said maybe when I turn 70, we will marry...that will give me more time to mull it over. LOL</p><p></p><p> I know you think that you are your son's last friend, but I betcha he still can find others to give him sympathy and let him live as he pleases. I used to think that I was all that Ant had, but then....what good was that??? I had to make him know that NO ONE would put up with his **** or if someone would...it wasn't me. </p><p></p><p>He is still gets on my last nerve at times, but he does not live with me, and if I don't want to answer his call, I don't and he texts. LOL </p><p></p><p>He does have four beautiful kids. His oldest son is 9, I raised him til he was 5, that mom is not involved. Ant has full sole custody of him now, but I keep him all summer and overnight once a week during the school year too. I see him a ton because they bought a house not far from me. </p><p></p><p>He has two other boys age 5 and 1, and a lil girl with long dark hair who is almost 3. I love them all and am close to all 4 kids (three different moms). He is married to the mom of the 3 yr and one yr olds...and I love her too. Ant actually went to grade school with her. Three of his kids live with them. Complicated, huh? His sons are all so pleasant and sweet, but the lil girl is a dynamo and mindofherown type person...am betting that she is the one who will give him a taste of his own medicine. Ant works daily and they have friends and socialize, go camping, he golfs. As *normal* as ant gets.</p><p></p><p>If he screws up, I am only there for the grandkids and his wife, not him and he knows it. Sounds harsh but he has to know that I chose to not live in chaos 24/7 like I used to. </p><p></p><p>How lovely that you have 6 grandkids! Congrats on the newest baby girl!! I love to be called "Nunny" and take them all to the park. Great to chat with you as well!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sunlight, post: 607022, member: 97"] LOL Tammy...I spent a lot of time here...joined when Ant was only 16...about 1999. Then we had a board glitch and we all got the same start year. lmao! Ant has not been arrested for over 7 years. A record in getting records, if you get my drift. When he was under 18, I had to get in there and fight for and against him depending on the situation. Once he turned 18, I felt I had done all I could. He knows right from wrong. He turned into an adult and like I always say, he never listened to a word I said from the time he was born. I have to say, that the person who changed first was me. I was sad- then mad- then determined that I could have a better life. I could not let his choices determine my mood du jour. Gosh it was a painful journey. In any case, we all know they can slip back into misery at an impulsive moment...but we have to be ready to be stronger ourselves. While he was in jails/and then prison...I learned to let go more, with the help and support of other prisoners' parents, and my faith. I am not married...so no husband. LOL I am still with the same boyfriend of 9 yrs and we got engaged last month. He bought me a chocolate and vanilla diamond ring and proposed. BUT I did not say yes. LMAO! I am still scared to marry but we have lived together 5 yrs. He is ok with it, and I said maybe when I turn 70, we will marry...that will give me more time to mull it over. LOL I know you think that you are your son's last friend, but I betcha he still can find others to give him sympathy and let him live as he pleases. I used to think that I was all that Ant had, but then....what good was that??? I had to make him know that NO ONE would put up with his **** or if someone would...it wasn't me. He is still gets on my last nerve at times, but he does not live with me, and if I don't want to answer his call, I don't and he texts. LOL He does have four beautiful kids. His oldest son is 9, I raised him til he was 5, that mom is not involved. Ant has full sole custody of him now, but I keep him all summer and overnight once a week during the school year too. I see him a ton because they bought a house not far from me. He has two other boys age 5 and 1, and a lil girl with long dark hair who is almost 3. I love them all and am close to all 4 kids (three different moms). He is married to the mom of the 3 yr and one yr olds...and I love her too. Ant actually went to grade school with her. Three of his kids live with them. Complicated, huh? His sons are all so pleasant and sweet, but the lil girl is a dynamo and mindofherown type person...am betting that she is the one who will give him a taste of his own medicine. Ant works daily and they have friends and socialize, go camping, he golfs. As *normal* as ant gets. If he screws up, I am only there for the grandkids and his wife, not him and he knows it. Sounds harsh but he has to know that I chose to not live in chaos 24/7 like I used to. How lovely that you have 6 grandkids! Congrats on the newest baby girl!! I love to be called "Nunny" and take them all to the park. Great to chat with you as well! [/QUOTE]
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