So my difficult child is 10 now. She had some individual therapy when she was 7, for anxiety. When she was 8 we did family therapy (really, just me and her dad in there trying to figure out how to parent her better) for awhile. Last fall when she was 9, she had a few sessions of therapy to get her through a rough time (I think she went in 3 times?). By the last session she was refusing to go into the therapist's office, and it was a difficult hour. Wouldn't talk even when we got her in there. But anyway, things were good for awhile. She really was doing better.
Now I think she really needs the therapy. I think she may need medication. I mean, things are better than two years ago but for the last few months she's just been difficult. She is just so moody, so mean to all of us, so defiant about everything. I think her anxiety is increasing again (though it's hard to tell, she doesn't exactly express that directly...so frustrating). And though we've learned a lot about how to respond to her it's just still so difficult to live with her. And she is miserable. So a couple of times I've brought up the idea of therapy as gently and positively as I could, even pointing out that my youngest is in therapy and liking it, and she is just adamantly opposed to the idea. I have visions of trying to get her into the office and her having a huge meltdown in the waiting room. That wouldn't be all bad, it would let any therapist see what we deal with. But I'm concerned that she will refuse to willingly participate.
I'm babbling. I guess what I'd like to know is how any of you have gone about handling a difficult child's refusal to cooperate with therapy. I am so done battling with her, my instinct right now is to just not fight this battle. I don't know what to do.
I just want to enjoy my kids. I'm so tired of living like this.
Now I think she really needs the therapy. I think she may need medication. I mean, things are better than two years ago but for the last few months she's just been difficult. She is just so moody, so mean to all of us, so defiant about everything. I think her anxiety is increasing again (though it's hard to tell, she doesn't exactly express that directly...so frustrating). And though we've learned a lot about how to respond to her it's just still so difficult to live with her. And she is miserable. So a couple of times I've brought up the idea of therapy as gently and positively as I could, even pointing out that my youngest is in therapy and liking it, and she is just adamantly opposed to the idea. I have visions of trying to get her into the office and her having a huge meltdown in the waiting room. That wouldn't be all bad, it would let any therapist see what we deal with. But I'm concerned that she will refuse to willingly participate.
I'm babbling. I guess what I'd like to know is how any of you have gone about handling a difficult child's refusal to cooperate with therapy. I am so done battling with her, my instinct right now is to just not fight this battle. I don't know what to do.
I just want to enjoy my kids. I'm so tired of living like this.