klmno
Active Member
I am trying to get this house in order for GAL's visit this week. I bought posters and stuff to hang over the worst areas of wall damage. It isn't going to hide everything and it wasn't my intent to cover up the fact that he rages, but I didn't want it to look like I just didn't care and had no pride in our home.
Anyway, his rages have seemed to decrease in frequency, however, he is more aggressive toward me when they happen. Could AP's make that happen?
And what is it with this dysfunctional way of thinking? It is driving me nuts. He has known for 3 - 4 days that I neeeded his help this weekend. When nothing big is going on, he normally helps me willingly and does a good job. Under pressure and when there is no choice, he refuses and acts like he will just do what he wants to- which is nothing productive. I need him to clean his bedroom and the game room (straighten- I didn't ask for thorough cleaning), help me shampoo carpet (3 roooms), and help hang this stuff. He has this "I'll show you- I'm not going to do anything you want me to" attitude.
Now, it is him that stands to be removed from home- albeit they are about stupid enough to send him to Fl to live with my bro. (Have I mentioned how I feel about that?) Or, they could put him in detention or an out-of-state Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- which I doubt that they will do. Or, they could order me to some classses under the impression that if I was a better Mom, he wouldn't be this way. Not that I am perfect, but I don't think be a bad Mom caused all this.
Anyway- do any others here experience this kind of choice with their difficult child's? As in- when the chips are down and their butt is on the line and we are trying to help them, they dig themselves in deaper?
I guess I will just clean and take care of the other areas besides his bedroom and the game room and it will probably hit him at bed time tomorrow night. Then watch- I could almost bet that he will refuse to go to school either tomorrow or Tues. or both. Why? Because that would be the dumbest decision when it is so important to make the right decision.
SIGH.....
Anyway, his rages have seemed to decrease in frequency, however, he is more aggressive toward me when they happen. Could AP's make that happen?
And what is it with this dysfunctional way of thinking? It is driving me nuts. He has known for 3 - 4 days that I neeeded his help this weekend. When nothing big is going on, he normally helps me willingly and does a good job. Under pressure and when there is no choice, he refuses and acts like he will just do what he wants to- which is nothing productive. I need him to clean his bedroom and the game room (straighten- I didn't ask for thorough cleaning), help me shampoo carpet (3 roooms), and help hang this stuff. He has this "I'll show you- I'm not going to do anything you want me to" attitude.
Now, it is him that stands to be removed from home- albeit they are about stupid enough to send him to Fl to live with my bro. (Have I mentioned how I feel about that?) Or, they could put him in detention or an out-of-state Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- which I doubt that they will do. Or, they could order me to some classses under the impression that if I was a better Mom, he wouldn't be this way. Not that I am perfect, but I don't think be a bad Mom caused all this.
Anyway- do any others here experience this kind of choice with their difficult child's? As in- when the chips are down and their butt is on the line and we are trying to help them, they dig themselves in deaper?
I guess I will just clean and take care of the other areas besides his bedroom and the game room and it will probably hit him at bed time tomorrow night. Then watch- I could almost bet that he will refuse to go to school either tomorrow or Tues. or both. Why? Because that would be the dumbest decision when it is so important to make the right decision.
SIGH.....