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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 160702" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Is it possible that telling him you will take him to a movie, out to dinner, whatever after you work together would help?? Or some way to have a relaxing evening together??</p><p> </p><p>I think you are handling this wonderfully. I am also very impressed that he felt he could come to you (and DID come to you) when he had thoughts of killing you. THAT is just wonderful, in my opinion. Your response was great too.</p><p> </p><p>If he is going to go to school and get into trouble, would it look so bad if he stayed home sick?? Not sure what the provisions are with your work, etc... or if this would mean he had an unsupervised day and would get into trouble at home or go wander the street, so I can't say if it would help.</p><p> </p><p>But if the whole GAL visit has him super stressed, then school may not be the best place for him. in my opinion it would be an absence due to his disorders, so calling him in sick would work for ME (but not sure how things are for you - it IS a personal call). Maybe provide some movies for him to watch, up the risperdal for the day and let him sleep.</p><p> </p><p>We had a LOT of luck with risperdal helping to calm aggression. When he raged, he still targetted me, but he didn't rage as often. </p><p> </p><p>Will he listen to meditational tapes, or music that is soothing if he stays home tomorrow?? Just me, but if he is home alone tomorrow, I would take any violent video games/movies to work in my car. I would NOT say anything, not make it obvious, but just have them not around. </p><p> </p><p>It is close to the end of the year, and if he is this much into the "fight or flight" then a day off might be a way to help him cope with the upcoming visit. He has to be very scared they will take him from you. He probably knows that there are not very many people he could go to with thoughts of killing them and NOT end up in the police station, or at the very least having the person be very unwilling to be around him. </p><p> </p><p>Good luck with the cleaning, and with the visit.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 160702, member: 1233"] Is it possible that telling him you will take him to a movie, out to dinner, whatever after you work together would help?? Or some way to have a relaxing evening together?? I think you are handling this wonderfully. I am also very impressed that he felt he could come to you (and DID come to you) when he had thoughts of killing you. THAT is just wonderful, in my opinion. Your response was great too. If he is going to go to school and get into trouble, would it look so bad if he stayed home sick?? Not sure what the provisions are with your work, etc... or if this would mean he had an unsupervised day and would get into trouble at home or go wander the street, so I can't say if it would help. But if the whole GAL visit has him super stressed, then school may not be the best place for him. in my opinion it would be an absence due to his disorders, so calling him in sick would work for ME (but not sure how things are for you - it IS a personal call). Maybe provide some movies for him to watch, up the risperdal for the day and let him sleep. We had a LOT of luck with risperdal helping to calm aggression. When he raged, he still targetted me, but he didn't rage as often. Will he listen to meditational tapes, or music that is soothing if he stays home tomorrow?? Just me, but if he is home alone tomorrow, I would take any violent video games/movies to work in my car. I would NOT say anything, not make it obvious, but just have them not around. It is close to the end of the year, and if he is this much into the "fight or flight" then a day off might be a way to help him cope with the upcoming visit. He has to be very scared they will take him from you. He probably knows that there are not very many people he could go to with thoughts of killing them and NOT end up in the police station, or at the very least having the person be very unwilling to be around him. Good luck with the cleaning, and with the visit. Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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