Sending some supportive hugs and prayers your way...along with just a little bit of free advice. Don't make calls or
take any action until you have chilled out AND your husband is
in agreement with your plan. When you make the call you have to be able to seem in control and united.
I have not dealt with prison but I have dealt with a bunch
of PO's and they do not respond well to emotional telephone
calls that are open-ended. Also, if the PO is a female, it
might be advantageous to have husband make the call sharing the
plan the two of you have together.
Good luck. DDD