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difficult child seems "spaced out"
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 573452" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>You're doing great, making another step along the road of detachment. It's difficult to see/hear them act in ways that are disturbing to us, however, there really is nothing else you can do and worrying makes us crazy, so you stepping back and being able to see the big picture is just terrific. I was just talking to my therapist about this and she mentioned that recovery for codependency/enabling is when you see how you can step in but you use the tools you have to step away............. the feelings may still be there, the worry, the doubts, but we don't act, we don't enable them. As time goes by that gets easier, however, I think in the case of our kids, as mothers, we always have a bump when we can see or feel that they may do something impulsive or dangerous or to simply make yet another bad choice. It's knowing, like you are really getting, that there is <em>nothing we can do. </em>Sigh. As you said, "the rest is up to him." Good job!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 573452, member: 13542"] You're doing great, making another step along the road of detachment. It's difficult to see/hear them act in ways that are disturbing to us, however, there really is nothing else you can do and worrying makes us crazy, so you stepping back and being able to see the big picture is just terrific. I was just talking to my therapist about this and she mentioned that recovery for codependency/enabling is when you see how you can step in but you use the tools you have to step away............. the feelings may still be there, the worry, the doubts, but we don't act, we don't enable them. As time goes by that gets easier, however, I think in the case of our kids, as mothers, we always have a bump when we can see or feel that they may do something impulsive or dangerous or to simply make yet another bad choice. It's knowing, like you are really getting, that there is [I]nothing we can do. [/I]Sigh. As you said, "the rest is up to him." Good job! [/QUOTE]
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