Well, yeah, that's basically how I feel, except that it's not only what I saw in the IM - it's her overall attitude. I don't have a problem with my dds' being "sexual beings" - I am very okay and well adjusted to them transforming into adults. It's the promiscuity that bothers me. She goes through phases when she's just very sexually provocative - 'out there'. She dresses sexy (with a knockout bod to match!), talks dirty to her otherwise seemingly insignificant flirty guy friends online and just exudes this very scary persona. It really throws me for a loop, I have to say.
I KNOW my easy child is flirty and has had sex; I know she is probably more obvious with her sexuality when she's with her boyfriend and not around me. I'm okay with that. I get it. Thankfully, she doesn't shove it in my face or leave evidence to confirm it within my sight. She understands BOUNDARIES, Know what I mean??
You're right. I know I did some scary things when I was a teen and my parents were ignorant of it. Or, if they weren't, they chose to look the other way and let me work my way through it. I guess I have to choose what to react to in the future. If I can get her on more reliable BC, maybe it will be easier to not be so freaked out. I don't know. I just don't know what to think. When I think of this kid out there being her little wierd self I worry.
