Last night, I happened upon an open conversation in AIM that difficult child was having with this boy from school - they are both 17 and have been flirting heavily with one another for about 9 months. The convo was very sexual in nature...there was talk of porn tapes and playing with herself and how he wants to FXXK her 'really good'....one day....maybe today when his mom is at work...oh wait! She doesn't have a car... ...too bad. It went on and on and was just so upsetting to read!! difficult child sounded like a professional! I was speechless, really and truly. I am feeling so defeated today. I feel like I just am not getting through to her. She doesn't seem to understand anything that I say until she's in a really bad place (always self inflicted) and then once it's over with, she's right back to being risque and all the risky behaviors. I just don't know what else I can do at this point. She's nearing graduation and will be 18 in October. She has no immediate plans for after HS, not college lined up, nothing. She's not interested in anything except sleeping and hanging out with boys. I am tempted to send her to live with her dad for the summer and maybe she can get a little job down there and when she returns she will be in a frame of mind to start school. The major danger of sending her there is that her father is a jerk and together they will chain smoke in his enclosed little shack with his dog that difficult child is allergic to. on the other hand, maybe it will be an eye opener for her and she will want to come home and do something with herself. I see nothing but a dead end. Perhaps an unwanted pregnancy, or a complete meltdown with her ending up in the phospital. I am at a loss. Any advice is welcome. Thanks.