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difficult child stabbed yesterday, he's okay, in hospital
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 634488" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Thanks Janet and BG---</p><p></p><p>I haven't heard much about getting girlfriend out of jail for the past few days. Today he wanted to come here and wash clothes. It seems the day shelter is closed because of some "disturbance" there last week---don't know what. Also, his vm said he "fell while riding his bike on his hurt arm." </p><p></p><p>I guess I'm just a big old meanie, but I said no. I told him after all this went down that he wasn't coming here anymore to wash clothes and take showers. </p><p></p><p>But here he is, asking again.</p><p></p><p>So I said: Sorry you will have to go to a laundromat.</p><p></p><p>Him: I can't and I can't carry all of my clothes.</p><p></p><p>Me: Sorry</p><p></p><p>Him: D____ WTF.</p><p></p><p>Me: I'll pick you up after work Thursday and take you to the doctor. Talk to you then.</p><p></p><p>Him: This is screwed up.</p><p></p><p>Me: Don't text things like that to me again.</p><p></p><p>Him: .... (always getting the last word in)</p><p></p><p>Here is the deal. It's a sad day when your homeless son can't come to your house to wash clothes. Yes, it's sad, but it is necessary. The door gets cracked open and then he pushes for more and more.</p><p></p><p>At the same time, he is able to keep on like he is, living like he is, because I'm doing for him things he needs to be doing for himself.</p><p></p><p>He has about $400 from his paycheck. No bail bondsman in his right mind is going to allow him to sign her bond. So difficult child can just make plans to get a place to live, somehow, some way. We told him we would even pay a first month's rent.</p><p></p><p>But he hasn't called to follow up on that. The motel's last paid-for night is tonight.</p><p></p><p>I have no idea what his plans are. </p><p></p><p>And you know, I don't want to know or need to know. </p><p></p><p>I am not even upset...much. I feel heavy today. Dragged down. But not weak about this. I don't have a steel spine, BG, I get weak and scared and confused a lot, but we have done a whole lot for him over these past two weeks, and it's time for him to use that help to take a next step forward himself. Or not. </p><p></p><p>Yes, I hope his arm is okay too. Of course, I don't want him to be hurt or have any permanent problems. I find it highly unlikely---but not impossible---that on the day he asks to wash clothes here he also just fell off his bike and right on his arm.</p><p></p><p>I didn't address that, but if your arm is damaged, go to the hospital. </p><p></p><p>I guess we just get to this point, don't we? It sounds cold and harsh, but you know, there IS a limit. And I'm at the limit right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 634488, member: 17542"] Thanks Janet and BG--- I haven't heard much about getting girlfriend out of jail for the past few days. Today he wanted to come here and wash clothes. It seems the day shelter is closed because of some "disturbance" there last week---don't know what. Also, his vm said he "fell while riding his bike on his hurt arm." I guess I'm just a big old meanie, but I said no. I told him after all this went down that he wasn't coming here anymore to wash clothes and take showers. But here he is, asking again. So I said: Sorry you will have to go to a laundromat. Him: I can't and I can't carry all of my clothes. Me: Sorry Him: D____ WTF. Me: I'll pick you up after work Thursday and take you to the doctor. Talk to you then. Him: This is screwed up. Me: Don't text things like that to me again. Him: .... (always getting the last word in) Here is the deal. It's a sad day when your homeless son can't come to your house to wash clothes. Yes, it's sad, but it is necessary. The door gets cracked open and then he pushes for more and more. At the same time, he is able to keep on like he is, living like he is, because I'm doing for him things he needs to be doing for himself. He has about $400 from his paycheck. No bail bondsman in his right mind is going to allow him to sign her bond. So difficult child can just make plans to get a place to live, somehow, some way. We told him we would even pay a first month's rent. But he hasn't called to follow up on that. The motel's last paid-for night is tonight. I have no idea what his plans are. And you know, I don't want to know or need to know. I am not even upset...much. I feel heavy today. Dragged down. But not weak about this. I don't have a steel spine, BG, I get weak and scared and confused a lot, but we have done a whole lot for him over these past two weeks, and it's time for him to use that help to take a next step forward himself. Or not. Yes, I hope his arm is okay too. Of course, I don't want him to be hurt or have any permanent problems. I find it highly unlikely---but not impossible---that on the day he asks to wash clothes here he also just fell off his bike and right on his arm. I didn't address that, but if your arm is damaged, go to the hospital. I guess we just get to this point, don't we? It sounds cold and harsh, but you know, there IS a limit. And I'm at the limit right now. [/QUOTE]
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