Before the huge disasterous fight Tuesday night... I need to back up a bit. When difficult child was 2 he went to a psychologist due to some things he said at daycare (where something happened that we didn't know until the last few years). Anyway he tested him for about a week or so and told me he should be listening to foreign language tapes and classical music. Scared me. Didn't do that and didn't go back. Not until he was 4. When he would have me in tears within hours of getting up. Then they said ODD. Struggled with school forever. Put in Special Education when he was in sixth grade (age 10). Struggled every day of school. Still he would push my buttons always. I am always the enemy. He went to a psychiatrist in 5th grade. he put him on Lamictal for anger. it helped tremendously. He has a ton of anxiety and if i read the description for Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), anxiety disorder, panic disorder he fits every one. Tried lorazapam, tried lexapro...all had bad effects. difficult child says he can't concentrate. Teachers say he is disruptive, social, doesn't pay attention, doesn't do his work, rather bothers everyone around him. he loses absolutely everything. he can lose papers without ever leaving school. When I do go through his folder I find 2 or 3 or even 4 of the same hand outs. Why??? because instead of looking in his folder he tells the teachers he lost it. Math teacher asked where his paper and quiz were. She helped him on the paper then gave a quiz and he left the class with both. he said he didn't know. Went through his folder and it was there. Does he really not know? He tried concerta, he tried Focalin, both put him in a scary mood. His words were he felt like he was on a cliff ready to jump/fall. Ok so NOW I am upset again. His psychiatrist never tested him for anything. Never talked to him or me. Spends LESS than 5 minutes and just hands us pills everytime to "try". How can psychiatrist keep putting him on pills if he doesn't even know what is wrong. he hasn't spent any time with him and doesn't talk to him. I have tried before with my insurance to get him tested. First of all the results of the testing is what determines if it is covered. Isn't that stupid. Second nobody in my area who is on the plan will take new patients. Principal of his school gave me a name of a psychiatrist. he was on the board of a psychiatric hospital and said to tell her she was recommended by him. So. that did it. However, she no longer is with the group that is covered, she opened her independent practice. She was SO nice. Went on and on, talked to me. On the phone. Actually asked me questions and talked and listened. Wants me to come in. Said to have insurance fax her what they would pay for out of network and she could work with me. She said she would spend the first visit atleast an hour with difficult child. Talked to insurance man. Nope. They won't do that. And Dr's in my area are expensive so insurance would only pay about 1/4 of the bill. And psychiatrist's don't do testing only therapist's. Insurance man hooked me up with a therapist about 20 miles from my home in Illinois. But about 5 minutes from my work. Talked to the receptionist and she told me the procedures. First one hour meeting with me only. Then after that with difficult child. Then he will determine what kind of testing needs to be done. they want school records, school testing results. Well the appointment is tomorrow. I don't have access that fast. My question is should I pay out of pocket for the psychiatrist also? The therapist is on insurance and all the testing would cost me $15.00. Ofcourse that is if a diagnosis is given that is covered. Get this. Autism is covered but Aspergers or any other on the "spectrum" is not covered. What do you all think?