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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 382823" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi marg, my friend in cyberspace lol, we are always so blunt with-eachother and you are soo insightful at times it scares me. yet this time your a bit off. you wrote soo much thank you for taking the time but i can't remember it all <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>basically difficult child has presented with-behaviors since before she was born. when pregnant with-her she was either really insanely hyper or ridiculously calm with zero movement. it was always odd and quite diff than easy child.</p><p> </p><p>she was born and boom boy was she in the world. she was immediately unable to sooth herself, ever. she cried more than she slept. she didn't adhere to nursing, formula's etc. it was a struggle since the beginning.</p><p> </p><p>her milestones, wow she broke her arm, wouldnt' sleep in crib, wouldnt' sleep in toddler bed, would roam the house at night and get into trouble. was everywhere and into everything all the time. she was hyper beyond belief and at times calm and solemn without explanation. she challenged almost everything, walked early, talked early. she didnt' transition well ever into anything. yet had this big smile and lit upa room as soon as she came in it.</p><p> </p><p>than came pre k boy what a struggle that was. non sleep, non focusing, yet able to repeat verbatim what teacher said even though she was spacing off. teacher's reported this and on it begin the formalized testing and me at the library doing research. always pre occupied with expiration dates, germs, hoarded things in her room, wet the bed since age 2. still wears pull ups. sensory issues galore, you name it with food as well as materials to this day. always easily distracted, worried about everything all the time, separtion anxiety to the hilt.</p><p> </p><p>point being i have always known that something was wrong with-her. i have no doubt in my mind that now she has an eating disorder, regardless of whatever leftover emotions she has due to things or whatever is bugging her now. life isn't perfect and she def. knows that yet she's super sensitive. </p><p> </p><p>so, with all that being said u got my wheels turning. i read all these responses in the truck on way back from hospital tonight and i slowly began to process.</p><p> </p><p>mistakes ive made; i let down my boundaries with-ex. i handle him like he's ok stable dealing with-52 and he isnt'. that is the reason i had him removed 10 years ago. yet i try so hard for difficult child to keep it all pink and blue. yet it isn't it never will be and h'es sick adn stil has gotten no help. </p><p> </p><p>can he care for her 5 days a month yes he can. does it de stablize her to some extent yes it does yet her relationship with hiim does benefit her to some extent. and i made a mistake doing visitation at hospital with-him also. it gave her that impressiona nd yes you are right she controlled the situation. got what she wanted mom and dad in same room.</p><p> </p><p>ok, i'll type more tmrw right now i'm totally shot and my eyes are hurting.</p><p> </p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> thanks as always to all of you. this really sux this whole thing. i knew it would. i knew they'd be tackling al of her stuff not just fact my kid isn't eating.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 382823, member: 4514"] hi marg, my friend in cyberspace lol, we are always so blunt with-eachother and you are soo insightful at times it scares me. yet this time your a bit off. you wrote soo much thank you for taking the time but i can't remember it all :) basically difficult child has presented with-behaviors since before she was born. when pregnant with-her she was either really insanely hyper or ridiculously calm with zero movement. it was always odd and quite diff than easy child. she was born and boom boy was she in the world. she was immediately unable to sooth herself, ever. she cried more than she slept. she didn't adhere to nursing, formula's etc. it was a struggle since the beginning. her milestones, wow she broke her arm, wouldnt' sleep in crib, wouldnt' sleep in toddler bed, would roam the house at night and get into trouble. was everywhere and into everything all the time. she was hyper beyond belief and at times calm and solemn without explanation. she challenged almost everything, walked early, talked early. she didnt' transition well ever into anything. yet had this big smile and lit upa room as soon as she came in it. than came pre k boy what a struggle that was. non sleep, non focusing, yet able to repeat verbatim what teacher said even though she was spacing off. teacher's reported this and on it begin the formalized testing and me at the library doing research. always pre occupied with expiration dates, germs, hoarded things in her room, wet the bed since age 2. still wears pull ups. sensory issues galore, you name it with food as well as materials to this day. always easily distracted, worried about everything all the time, separtion anxiety to the hilt. point being i have always known that something was wrong with-her. i have no doubt in my mind that now she has an eating disorder, regardless of whatever leftover emotions she has due to things or whatever is bugging her now. life isn't perfect and she def. knows that yet she's super sensitive. so, with all that being said u got my wheels turning. i read all these responses in the truck on way back from hospital tonight and i slowly began to process. mistakes ive made; i let down my boundaries with-ex. i handle him like he's ok stable dealing with-52 and he isnt'. that is the reason i had him removed 10 years ago. yet i try so hard for difficult child to keep it all pink and blue. yet it isn't it never will be and h'es sick adn stil has gotten no help. can he care for her 5 days a month yes he can. does it de stablize her to some extent yes it does yet her relationship with hiim does benefit her to some extent. and i made a mistake doing visitation at hospital with-him also. it gave her that impressiona nd yes you are right she controlled the situation. got what she wanted mom and dad in same room. ok, i'll type more tmrw right now i'm totally shot and my eyes are hurting. :) thanks as always to all of you. this really sux this whole thing. i knew it would. i knew they'd be tackling al of her stuff not just fact my kid isn't eating. [/QUOTE]
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