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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 400427" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm so sorry her heart is affected. Not surprised though. I as hoping she was young enough and resilient enough to not have done this damage. However, they're watching it now, she will get the right sort of help now.</p><p></p><p></p><p>People keep telling you, because it is obvious to them. And also because in so many cases like this, therapy for the parent is needed. Now, while you have the space (while someone else is monitoring her) - organise a therapist. Someone out there, someone nearby. You can still be within coo-ee for her and seeing your own therapist.</p><p></p><p>it is not a reflection on you or your capability, to go see a therapist. If anything, it helps you affirm yourself as an effective, strong parent and helps you stay effective and strong. Consider it an investment in your parenting, if you don't want to see it as an investment in yourself.</p><p></p><p>The best gift you can give your family, is you. Your health, your sanity, your happiness. It is not selfish to do this. It is an insurance policy. You've had a lot of people (including me) nag you about this. I'm nagging again.</p><p></p><p>You have the chance now, while you are out there with your daughter. Grab the chance and use it. </p><p></p><p>Also, consider taking up knitting or crochet. it helps you burn up some of that adrenalin and nervous energy. I got back to knitting thanks to my cancer - the Cancer Centre has baskets of wool and knitting needles, people who are waiting for their treatment can choose (or not) to pick up some knitting and knit a row or two. Instructions are in the baskets. The aim is to complete squares which get sewn together to make blankets which get sent around the world or donated to local people who would otherwise not have anything to keep warm. </p><p></p><p>Or you could knit easy child or difficult child something. I have a very easy shawl pattern knitted on rocket needles. If a shawl is too much, one ball of wool makes a small scarf. </p><p></p><p>The thing with knitting while you are otherwise hanging around - each row helps you mark time and also feel you are doing something productive. Making progress. It stops you feeling so hopeless.</p><p></p><p>I knit in therapy sessions myself. And in church. Anywhere. I use circular needles because I find it easier on my weak muscles. And I do not consider myself a strong knitter. But every row is progress.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 400427, member: 1991"] I'm so sorry her heart is affected. Not surprised though. I as hoping she was young enough and resilient enough to not have done this damage. However, they're watching it now, she will get the right sort of help now. People keep telling you, because it is obvious to them. And also because in so many cases like this, therapy for the parent is needed. Now, while you have the space (while someone else is monitoring her) - organise a therapist. Someone out there, someone nearby. You can still be within coo-ee for her and seeing your own therapist. it is not a reflection on you or your capability, to go see a therapist. If anything, it helps you affirm yourself as an effective, strong parent and helps you stay effective and strong. Consider it an investment in your parenting, if you don't want to see it as an investment in yourself. The best gift you can give your family, is you. Your health, your sanity, your happiness. It is not selfish to do this. It is an insurance policy. You've had a lot of people (including me) nag you about this. I'm nagging again. You have the chance now, while you are out there with your daughter. Grab the chance and use it. Also, consider taking up knitting or crochet. it helps you burn up some of that adrenalin and nervous energy. I got back to knitting thanks to my cancer - the Cancer Centre has baskets of wool and knitting needles, people who are waiting for their treatment can choose (or not) to pick up some knitting and knit a row or two. Instructions are in the baskets. The aim is to complete squares which get sewn together to make blankets which get sent around the world or donated to local people who would otherwise not have anything to keep warm. Or you could knit easy child or difficult child something. I have a very easy shawl pattern knitted on rocket needles. If a shawl is too much, one ball of wool makes a small scarf. The thing with knitting while you are otherwise hanging around - each row helps you mark time and also feel you are doing something productive. Making progress. It stops you feeling so hopeless. I knit in therapy sessions myself. And in church. Anywhere. I use circular needles because I find it easier on my weak muscles. And I do not consider myself a strong knitter. But every row is progress. Marg [/QUOTE]
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