i know this is tearing you up inside. you understand the dangers of him living with-bio where he sees only good outcomes. sigh.
the best you can do is support him. give him paramiters should he ask to return to your home ~~~ which hopefully he will at some point.
sadly, he won't take your word for this being a bad idea. he will have to find that out for himself. i also think this is a fairly common thing, esp with-older adoptees.
when he goes leave the door open for a return & hope he comes to his senses. try not to spend too much time in the next year or so anticipating the worst. keep looking for alternative plans to offer him, maybe with-the carrot of a better reunification with-bio after he completes a work program & can support himself??? sorry, just tossing ideas at you.
it's going to be a stressful time in the next few years for you guys. take care of yourselves.
kris
