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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 310653" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I had a hunch you might be. Just hoped I was wrong. As I said, it all dpends on where she is in this journey.</p><p></p><p>At least you got her graduated from high school. Sounds to me like college is a write-off. At least until she works out her priorities. The environment she has fallen into is enabling her to do the wrong thing. It would be interesting to know how she's going in class (assuming she GETS to class).</p><p></p><p>I remember when I was in 1st year uni, we were told there was a 90% drop-out rate. Certainly the 1st year classes were many and full, but by 2nd year our numbers were down to 30, from up to 600. There are many reasons why kids drop out. Having to handle responsibility so solidly for the first time was undoubtedly one big reason. Not having the maturity to ignore distractions was another big reason. And when drugs come into the equation (drugs and "having fun") then focus has been lost and until you get that focus back, no progress will be made.</p><p></p><p>here is where our cultures deviate, I think. I simply don't know or understand enough about your education system at college level. It's not quite the same as our uni system but I gather it is available with the same freedoms.</p><p></p><p>I know in my case, I simply couldn't handle the combination of all the freedoms, coupled with the lack of grounding. And I wasn't a difficult child!</p><p></p><p>It wasn't until I quit uni and got a job for a few years that I finally was able to go back to my studies with more grounding and more maturity. Trying to continue while so unsettled and unfocussed was simply a waste of time and money.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can find a way through this. She has to learn to make good choices, and she has to learn to do this for herself.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 310653, member: 1991"] I had a hunch you might be. Just hoped I was wrong. As I said, it all dpends on where she is in this journey. At least you got her graduated from high school. Sounds to me like college is a write-off. At least until she works out her priorities. The environment she has fallen into is enabling her to do the wrong thing. It would be interesting to know how she's going in class (assuming she GETS to class). I remember when I was in 1st year uni, we were told there was a 90% drop-out rate. Certainly the 1st year classes were many and full, but by 2nd year our numbers were down to 30, from up to 600. There are many reasons why kids drop out. Having to handle responsibility so solidly for the first time was undoubtedly one big reason. Not having the maturity to ignore distractions was another big reason. And when drugs come into the equation (drugs and "having fun") then focus has been lost and until you get that focus back, no progress will be made. here is where our cultures deviate, I think. I simply don't know or understand enough about your education system at college level. It's not quite the same as our uni system but I gather it is available with the same freedoms. I know in my case, I simply couldn't handle the combination of all the freedoms, coupled with the lack of grounding. And I wasn't a difficult child! It wasn't until I quit uni and got a job for a few years that I finally was able to go back to my studies with more grounding and more maturity. Trying to continue while so unsettled and unfocussed was simply a waste of time and money. I hope you can find a way through this. She has to learn to make good choices, and she has to learn to do this for herself. Marg [/QUOTE]
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