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difficult child was indicted today, on three felony charges
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 517870" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs))))) I am sorry you didn't even get to see him. You are handling all of this very well. PLEASE give yourself permission to cry, break down, get help other than FA as you need it. My mom did most of the stuff regarding my bro's hitting bottom by herself. I lived hours away and had 3 small kids, my dad refused to take time off work to go to court, etc.... and mom felt very alone. Once he was "okay" meaning had 1 yr sober and a suspended sentence that could be expunged if he kept out of trouble, she had a complete breakdown. She truly stopped functioning. She didn't let herself ask for help other than a few alanon meeting and phoning in most of her sessions with her therapist (literally doing it over the phone so the therapist couldn't see how bad off she was) and it ended up destroying her for a long time. She had to retire on disability, her health tanked totally - she has chronic health issues and they got so much worse, and lots of other stuff got really bad.</p><p></p><p>PLEASE don't let this happen to you. Get help, whatever works for you. I am glad your husband was with you and it sounds like you are supporting each other through this. that is great. My dad just sort of pretended it wasn't happening and my mom felt very alone. Learn from her mistakes, please. I don't want anyone to hurt like she did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 517870, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) I am sorry you didn't even get to see him. You are handling all of this very well. PLEASE give yourself permission to cry, break down, get help other than FA as you need it. My mom did most of the stuff regarding my bro's hitting bottom by herself. I lived hours away and had 3 small kids, my dad refused to take time off work to go to court, etc.... and mom felt very alone. Once he was "okay" meaning had 1 yr sober and a suspended sentence that could be expunged if he kept out of trouble, she had a complete breakdown. She truly stopped functioning. She didn't let herself ask for help other than a few alanon meeting and phoning in most of her sessions with her therapist (literally doing it over the phone so the therapist couldn't see how bad off she was) and it ended up destroying her for a long time. She had to retire on disability, her health tanked totally - she has chronic health issues and they got so much worse, and lots of other stuff got really bad. PLEASE don't let this happen to you. Get help, whatever works for you. I am glad your husband was with you and it sounds like you are supporting each other through this. that is great. My dad just sort of pretended it wasn't happening and my mom felt very alone. Learn from her mistakes, please. I don't want anyone to hurt like she did. [/QUOTE]
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