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difficult child was removed from our home tonight
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<blockquote data-quote="gwenny" data-source="post: 249898" data-attributes="member: 6852"><p>Here's the update to our situation. I made it to the hospital by 6 last night just to show that my husband was coming, of course they wouldnt see me but at least they knew someone was there and we husband wanted to be there but just couldnt get the time off due to all the time off he has taken. My husband works for the automobile industry and as we all know this economy is horrible and cant afford to lose his job.</p><p></p><p>So They gave him until 7 pm and he got there at 7:01. They lectured us and blah blah but when my husband explained the situation the gentleman was very understanding. </p><p></p><p>Ok so husband did all the talking and I only said few things as my husband forgets some things under pressure. The dr says it sounds like Antisocial personality disorder emerging. The therapist said this the other day but she called it "emerging". This is what I have suspected after doing a huge amount of homework for years and felt this way about difficult child since he was 5 years old. Just all the signs were there but the parents just stuck there head in the sand so to speak.</p><p></p><p>Well husband told him that difficult child cannot come home, as my wife fears all of our safety. He did say that when we speak to difficult child dr that we are to tell him that and stress that he cannot come home. He did say that this is just a crisis place for a short period of time and other arrangements would have to be made. We told him that we are loolking at group homes or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) which he felt would be a better place for him, as we are not able to have an armed guard in our home 24/7.</p><p></p><p>He stated that there would be serious medication changes, but we have to understand that there is no medication that will make him feel any type of emotion, they just try and get the impulsive and aggression under control and hope that therapy can train him how certain behaviors are not allowed and this would be a lifelong struggle.</p><p></p><p>So difficult child pulled an amazing stunt, which I pointed out. We left and were standing at the nurses station talking to the dr and there is a window where the kids can talk to the people at the desk and difficult child was in this room that we could clearly see him and vise virsa. Well all the boys were having snacks and they came to the desk and were staring at me and laughing and than difficult child says to them I told you not to stare at her come on they will know. Well of course I once again took my punches but kept my head held high and pretended not to notice them.</p><p></p><p>husband say's he looks like hes on vacation having a grand time. We brought him some clothes as they are very strict about what he has. </p><p></p><p>This place is 2 1/2 hours from our home and over an hour away from husband job. So we are not able to visit him during the week and hopefully at least on a saturday or sunday we will be able to or at least husband. </p><p></p><p>Thats it I have to say I slept from 1am to 11am this morning and I feel so good, still drained but good. That has been the best 10 hours of sound sleep I have had in a few months. </p><p></p><p>My son is having a few friends stay the weekend as he has not had this in so long as I just don't want to expose anyone's kid to any kind of danger. easy child and I didnt get to go to the movies yesterday as all this paperwork and phone calls had to be made I decided to pick him up at school next week and go to the movies. easy child didn't know I had plans to take him yesterday as I have learned the hard way not to plan anything or say anything as you never know what will happen and easy child has enough going on with out me adding disappointment to the mix.</p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: Red">Thank you all for being here for advice or just support as it has helped me tremendously. Words cannot say how much I appreciate you all. I hope to be able to help others one day as all of you have.The kindest words,prayers and to lend an listening ear to everyone in need. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: Red"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: Red">I will keep everyone in our prayers and thoughts.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px"><span style="color: Red"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gwenny, post: 249898, member: 6852"] Here's the update to our situation. I made it to the hospital by 6 last night just to show that my husband was coming, of course they wouldnt see me but at least they knew someone was there and we husband wanted to be there but just couldnt get the time off due to all the time off he has taken. My husband works for the automobile industry and as we all know this economy is horrible and cant afford to lose his job. So They gave him until 7 pm and he got there at 7:01. They lectured us and blah blah but when my husband explained the situation the gentleman was very understanding. Ok so husband did all the talking and I only said few things as my husband forgets some things under pressure. The dr says it sounds like Antisocial personality disorder emerging. The therapist said this the other day but she called it "emerging". This is what I have suspected after doing a huge amount of homework for years and felt this way about difficult child since he was 5 years old. Just all the signs were there but the parents just stuck there head in the sand so to speak. Well husband told him that difficult child cannot come home, as my wife fears all of our safety. He did say that when we speak to difficult child dr that we are to tell him that and stress that he cannot come home. He did say that this is just a crisis place for a short period of time and other arrangements would have to be made. We told him that we are loolking at group homes or Residential Treatment Center (RTC) which he felt would be a better place for him, as we are not able to have an armed guard in our home 24/7. He stated that there would be serious medication changes, but we have to understand that there is no medication that will make him feel any type of emotion, they just try and get the impulsive and aggression under control and hope that therapy can train him how certain behaviors are not allowed and this would be a lifelong struggle. So difficult child pulled an amazing stunt, which I pointed out. We left and were standing at the nurses station talking to the dr and there is a window where the kids can talk to the people at the desk and difficult child was in this room that we could clearly see him and vise virsa. Well all the boys were having snacks and they came to the desk and were staring at me and laughing and than difficult child says to them I told you not to stare at her come on they will know. Well of course I once again took my punches but kept my head held high and pretended not to notice them. husband say's he looks like hes on vacation having a grand time. We brought him some clothes as they are very strict about what he has. This place is 2 1/2 hours from our home and over an hour away from husband job. So we are not able to visit him during the week and hopefully at least on a saturday or sunday we will be able to or at least husband. Thats it I have to say I slept from 1am to 11am this morning and I feel so good, still drained but good. That has been the best 10 hours of sound sleep I have had in a few months. My son is having a few friends stay the weekend as he has not had this in so long as I just don't want to expose anyone's kid to any kind of danger. easy child and I didnt get to go to the movies yesterday as all this paperwork and phone calls had to be made I decided to pick him up at school next week and go to the movies. easy child didn't know I had plans to take him yesterday as I have learned the hard way not to plan anything or say anything as you never know what will happen and easy child has enough going on with out me adding disappointment to the mix. [SIZE=4][COLOR=Red]Thank you all for being here for advice or just support as it has helped me tremendously. Words cannot say how much I appreciate you all. I hope to be able to help others one day as all of you have.The kindest words,prayers and to lend an listening ear to everyone in need. I will keep everyone in our prayers and thoughts. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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