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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 172070" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Thanks Fran. We have given difficult child much the same talk about living with the pain of having hurt or killed someone and the pain her family would endure if she was injured or killed herself. And you are right, she wasn't under the influence she was just being stupid and handing her a ticket I believe would not have had the same effect on her as what did happen. Teens do stupid things all the time and fear is a great motivator for some.</p><p></p><p>I know you and I have worked very hard at making our difficult child's responsible and there does come a point where they have to do it themselves. This is one of those life lessons that hopefully will stick. I know years ago I got a speeding ticket on my way home from taking difficult child to the doctor. I wanted to get home before easy child got home on the bus from school. I had to go to court because it was over 15 miles over the speed limit. I was terrified. I had a clean record until then and brought husband as my attorney. After watching the mayor's handling of violators before me I told husband I wanted to do it on my own. I pled no contest, explained why I was speeding, and told the court I was upset that I had ruined my perfect driving record. They dismissed the charges and sent me on my way with not so much as a fine. I remember that every time I drive now. I was given another chance and that keeps me from speeding. We are hoping that difficult child remembers her experience every time she gets in the car. That stuck with me more than paying any ticket would have.</p><p></p><p>Will difficult child remember that chance the next time? I think that is the whole point here, trying to teach our juvenile instead of just punishing them. </p><p></p><p>rm, you are correct. We yanked the keys and she has to drive with us now until we are confident that she is observing the speed limits. I agree that I would rather have some control over the situation than have her pay a fine and continue driving irresponsibly.</p><p></p><p>witz, I do believe this is what the cop thought. I have to say that we have some of the best police officers around when it comes to juveniles. In all of our dealings with them they have proven over and over that they want to help our kids grow into responsible adults, not just be punitive and cause kids to be resentful.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 172070, member: 59"] Thanks Fran. We have given difficult child much the same talk about living with the pain of having hurt or killed someone and the pain her family would endure if she was injured or killed herself. And you are right, she wasn't under the influence she was just being stupid and handing her a ticket I believe would not have had the same effect on her as what did happen. Teens do stupid things all the time and fear is a great motivator for some. I know you and I have worked very hard at making our difficult child's responsible and there does come a point where they have to do it themselves. This is one of those life lessons that hopefully will stick. I know years ago I got a speeding ticket on my way home from taking difficult child to the doctor. I wanted to get home before easy child got home on the bus from school. I had to go to court because it was over 15 miles over the speed limit. I was terrified. I had a clean record until then and brought husband as my attorney. After watching the mayor's handling of violators before me I told husband I wanted to do it on my own. I pled no contest, explained why I was speeding, and told the court I was upset that I had ruined my perfect driving record. They dismissed the charges and sent me on my way with not so much as a fine. I remember that every time I drive now. I was given another chance and that keeps me from speeding. We are hoping that difficult child remembers her experience every time she gets in the car. That stuck with me more than paying any ticket would have. Will difficult child remember that chance the next time? I think that is the whole point here, trying to teach our juvenile instead of just punishing them. rm, you are correct. We yanked the keys and she has to drive with us now until we are confident that she is observing the speed limits. I agree that I would rather have some control over the situation than have her pay a fine and continue driving irresponsibly. witz, I do believe this is what the cop thought. I have to say that we have some of the best police officers around when it comes to juveniles. In all of our dealings with them they have proven over and over that they want to help our kids grow into responsible adults, not just be punitive and cause kids to be resentful. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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