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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 119525" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>DiC - I am sick of it and if you were able to read any old posts, you'd see that it's been two steps forward one step back for me for a long while now. We can all hope to be the kind of parent who can detach with love, but some of our difficult child's make it near impossible. I am at a point of self preservation and needing difficult child to understand the meaning of "learning the hard way", as I think it's the only way some of us can learn (myself included!).</p><p> </p><p>Star and Lisa, It doesn't even matter if difficult child knows how or where I read the letter - the girl is stupid. She leaves it on the computer, still open. Our computer is in the living room and no one can get in or out of that room without glancing at least at the computer. It would be hard to miss no matter what. And although she has done this in the past and that's how H or I have learned things, she continuously does it. I personally think she WANTS me to see it just so she has an adult person to bounce things off of once in a while. She also knows that I'm at a point where I can't control her or make her stop hanging out with these kids or MB. </p><p> </p><p>On another post somewhere someone said, "It is what it is" and that's been my motto for a while now. It is what it is - difficult child is old enough and smart enough to know better. The rest is up to her. I feel she's at a pivotal point in her mini-adulthood and she's walking a tightrope. (by the way, I call it mini adulthood because she's still so immature, but has the power of being 18).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 119525, member: 2211"] DiC - I am sick of it and if you were able to read any old posts, you'd see that it's been two steps forward one step back for me for a long while now. We can all hope to be the kind of parent who can detach with love, but some of our difficult child's make it near impossible. I am at a point of self preservation and needing difficult child to understand the meaning of "learning the hard way", as I think it's the only way some of us can learn (myself included!). Star and Lisa, It doesn't even matter if difficult child knows how or where I read the letter - the girl is stupid. She leaves it on the computer, still open. Our computer is in the living room and no one can get in or out of that room without glancing at least at the computer. It would be hard to miss no matter what. And although she has done this in the past and that's how H or I have learned things, she continuously does it. I personally think she WANTS me to see it just so she has an adult person to bounce things off of once in a while. She also knows that I'm at a point where I can't control her or make her stop hanging out with these kids or MB. On another post somewhere someone said, "It is what it is" and that's been my motto for a while now. It is what it is - difficult child is old enough and smart enough to know better. The rest is up to her. I feel she's at a pivotal point in her mini-adulthood and she's walking a tightrope. (by the way, I call it mini adulthood because she's still so immature, but has the power of being 18). [/QUOTE]
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