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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 437075" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It is an important thing to consider. My mother arranged for a dear, close friend who was in a support group with her for many years to be her POA in that situation. She didn't feel that my father would be able to do what she wanted and she didn't want that dynamic between gfgbro and I. He is the executor of their wills, which I don't care about and don't want in any way, shape or form, largely because hei s so Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) organized and I am the exact opposite. But I CAN follow her wishes and he flat out has said he will not ever. It has been almost three years since her friend died and I finally told her that if and when she was ready to address this that I CAN and WILL do whatever she outlines and keep the spirit of what she wants in mind as I make decisions.</p><p></p><p>Part of me thinks it might be a blessing to be in that position because after the will was done it owuld mean gfgbro never would speak to me again. No downside in that, in my opinion. Harsh as it sounds, y'all know why i say it. </p><p></p><p>As for me, well, I have to rely on my kids. I don't know if Wiz could tell the docs what I want, but Jess can and would. But I have it all in writing so hopefully it isn't an issue.</p><p></p><p>It is a scary thought when you have difficult children though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 437075, member: 1233"] It is an important thing to consider. My mother arranged for a dear, close friend who was in a support group with her for many years to be her POA in that situation. She didn't feel that my father would be able to do what she wanted and she didn't want that dynamic between gfgbro and I. He is the executor of their wills, which I don't care about and don't want in any way, shape or form, largely because hei s so Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) organized and I am the exact opposite. But I CAN follow her wishes and he flat out has said he will not ever. It has been almost three years since her friend died and I finally told her that if and when she was ready to address this that I CAN and WILL do whatever she outlines and keep the spirit of what she wants in mind as I make decisions. Part of me thinks it might be a blessing to be in that position because after the will was done it owuld mean gfgbro never would speak to me again. No downside in that, in my opinion. Harsh as it sounds, y'all know why i say it. As for me, well, I have to rely on my kids. I don't know if Wiz could tell the docs what I want, but Jess can and would. But I have it all in writing so hopefully it isn't an issue. It is a scary thought when you have difficult children though. [/QUOTE]
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