I have already signed Advance Medical Directives. First person to make decisions on my behalf is H, followed by easy child, then difficult child. easy child signed her AMD and I am first, followed by difficult child, and difficult child has me first then easy child. H won't do it.
I trust either easy child or difficult child to follow through on my wishes as we've discussed several times over. DNR - and I trust that neither of them will have trouble with this. In fact, I was thinking about it the other night, after an evening caring for my mom, and realized that out of the two girls, I would be able to rely on easy child to make sure all services and finances are in order, but it would difficult child who would do the personal care stuff. easy child is squirelly, difficult child can do it. She even changed my mom's diaper once, cleaned her all up and put her in her nightie - not an easy feat!!!