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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 602798" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I have to say that I was almost speechless when I met a room mate. He really is like American/Californian stereotype and I really thought that was just a stereotype, after all those Americans I know personally don't fit the stereotype at all, but that kid at least presented like that.</p><p></p><p>He really was nice and friendly and very social and I mostly worry difficult child may feel overwhelmed by him, feels he is not allowed a downtime he needs, gets scared and prickly or tries to copy this kid and ends up totally out of his depth. I brainstormed/mother henned some ideas how difficult child can make the roommate understand difficult child needs his alone time and quite a lot of it. After all this kid may want some company from difficult child more than difficult child may be able to handle. The kid is really far from home, first time alone, out from home, not in dorm, middle of foreign culture, not understanding a word of local language or even the other common language at the area, in much smaller city than ever before, in the team there only few are likely willing to chat in English. Playing against and with men first time ever. If this kid is not really independent and used to be happy alone, it can be really tough. And even if difficult child wouldn't be his choice for a friend at home, difficult child is there and speaks good English.</p><p></p><p>It would likely be easiest for difficult child to be honest and frank about his need of alone time. I'm just afraid that is not something difficult child is capable. So I suggested difficult child finds something extra boring he may do outside of the flat and have his alone time that way. Or claims to be meditating/focusing/centring himself or come up with something vaguely spiritual (Americans tend to be much more respectful and minding when it comes anything spiritual than Europeans.) And make sure to establish the boundaries he can live with from the get-go. And to remember that despite how self-confident the room mate presents himself, he really is in the situation where everything is new to him and that can be very tough for anyone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 602798, member: 14557"] I have to say that I was almost speechless when I met a room mate. He really is like American/Californian stereotype and I really thought that was just a stereotype, after all those Americans I know personally don't fit the stereotype at all, but that kid at least presented like that. He really was nice and friendly and very social and I mostly worry difficult child may feel overwhelmed by him, feels he is not allowed a downtime he needs, gets scared and prickly or tries to copy this kid and ends up totally out of his depth. I brainstormed/mother henned some ideas how difficult child can make the roommate understand difficult child needs his alone time and quite a lot of it. After all this kid may want some company from difficult child more than difficult child may be able to handle. The kid is really far from home, first time alone, out from home, not in dorm, middle of foreign culture, not understanding a word of local language or even the other common language at the area, in much smaller city than ever before, in the team there only few are likely willing to chat in English. Playing against and with men first time ever. If this kid is not really independent and used to be happy alone, it can be really tough. And even if difficult child wouldn't be his choice for a friend at home, difficult child is there and speaks good English. It would likely be easiest for difficult child to be honest and frank about his need of alone time. I'm just afraid that is not something difficult child is capable. So I suggested difficult child finds something extra boring he may do outside of the flat and have his alone time that way. Or claims to be meditating/focusing/centring himself or come up with something vaguely spiritual (Americans tend to be much more respectful and minding when it comes anything spiritual than Europeans.) And make sure to establish the boundaries he can live with from the get-go. And to remember that despite how self-confident the room mate presents himself, he really is in the situation where everything is new to him and that can be very tough for anyone. [/QUOTE]
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