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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 602891" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Skotti: I have decided to be happy for him and stay positive <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> </p><p></p><p>This would not have been MY choice for him, but he is an adult and his reasons do make some sense. I would have wanted him to stay home (well, in this country) continue his therapy full force, gain an upper hand of certain issues and then move on. I mean, he had a nice and neat treatment plan, he was doing fine with it, for me it doesn't make sense to deviate from it and take a break, because you feel like it. Especially when with the break there are some new, unknown challenges. </p><p></p><p>He did have also a sport wise good local offer that would have offered some stability, closeness to one of our biggest medication school and lots of mental health institutions and all the services that makes available. But he didn't want it because of long bus trips and certain sport reasons, which made him unwilling to commit to that option for the three years they wanted. And he wanted a break, and I can understand wanting that. His last year was awful in many fronts and I get it, that he is totally exhausted. I also get it, that the type of therapy he does, exposure therapy, while effective, is also extremely tough and takes a lot from him.</p><p></p><p>But still, running away shouldn't be an answer, even if it is typical to him. But hopefully he also finally understands, that when you run away, you take most of your issues with you and rest are not getting any easier back at home. Of course his is kind of controlled running away and taking a break, so I should be happy he isn't just bolting. But I just get nervous when he doesn't stay in the neat track I have planned for him in my mind <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> For some reason he never does <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /></p><p></p><p>difficult child's agent had another of his clients in this team last year and he had had a good experience and recommended the team to difficult child when difficult child called and asked. I hope also difficult child will enjoy his time there and grow and learn some more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 602891, member: 14557"] Skotti: I have decided to be happy for him and stay positive :winking: This would not have been MY choice for him, but he is an adult and his reasons do make some sense. I would have wanted him to stay home (well, in this country) continue his therapy full force, gain an upper hand of certain issues and then move on. I mean, he had a nice and neat treatment plan, he was doing fine with it, for me it doesn't make sense to deviate from it and take a break, because you feel like it. Especially when with the break there are some new, unknown challenges. He did have also a sport wise good local offer that would have offered some stability, closeness to one of our biggest medication school and lots of mental health institutions and all the services that makes available. But he didn't want it because of long bus trips and certain sport reasons, which made him unwilling to commit to that option for the three years they wanted. And he wanted a break, and I can understand wanting that. His last year was awful in many fronts and I get it, that he is totally exhausted. I also get it, that the type of therapy he does, exposure therapy, while effective, is also extremely tough and takes a lot from him. But still, running away shouldn't be an answer, even if it is typical to him. But hopefully he also finally understands, that when you run away, you take most of your issues with you and rest are not getting any easier back at home. Of course his is kind of controlled running away and taking a break, so I should be happy he isn't just bolting. But I just get nervous when he doesn't stay in the neat track I have planned for him in my mind :winking: For some reason he never does :bigsmile: difficult child's agent had another of his clients in this team last year and he had had a good experience and recommended the team to difficult child when difficult child called and asked. I hope also difficult child will enjoy his time there and grow and learn some more. [/QUOTE]
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