Well, today we had Adam's drug & alcohol assesment with the county counseling center. When we were filling out the forms one of the questions was have you ever used alcohol, Adam said yes. I looked at him & said "what?!", he said it was a couple of years ago, I don't do it anymore. Good grief, he was 13!!! What is wrong with this child??!! The conselor recommended that he start going to group counseling classes with other teens every Tuesday night from 4-8pm. Oddly enough he was actually fine with this. Today anyway. He's going regardless so it's in his best interests to be fine with it. I pray this will help. In addition I have a call into a psycologist & am waiting to hear back from him. We also had his follow appointment with the parole supervisor last Friday about the unruly charges we filed on him. husband & I told her about him coming in stoned the previous Saturday & about the ER visit. At first Adam denied that he had done anything & then the PO told him that when she did a drug test on him she would know, so he fessed up. So she 'officially' put him on 90 days probation, 30 days house arrest & said if he screwed up even one time that he would go to trial & could either do up to 2 years in juvenile or be sent to a boot camp. Goodness knows that I do not want to see him in either one of those places but the alternative is even scarier. I am trying to get my father in law to come back to his house from the mountains so Adam can stay with him because this week is Spring Break & we do not want to leave him home alone (or even with easy child). So this is where we stand right now. I'm feeling better because at least we are doing something ya know? My 3 oldest sibs were into drugs from teendom on up & my parents just seemed to turn the heads to what was going on which contributed (I think) to my sis dying from a dirty needle at 46 & my brothers spending most of their adult lives in prison for drug related crimes (which is why I have ZERO tollerance for drugs or alchohol). I will NOT be one of those parents, if Adam does continue on a self destructive road as an adult it will not be because of us turning our backs on him as a teen. God help us all. Thank you all for being there for me & the great advice y'all have given.