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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 355131" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>PO just called again and said they won't have any available at least for another 7 to 10 days but after spending about 1 1/2 hour talking to difficult child, he's not so sure that it's the best thing right now. He says difficult child was talking non-stop about smoking pot a lot and stuff he's been doing and that he's not sure he wants to change. PO says that something is weird about this because he could tell that difficult child was trying to get PO to talk about this stuff but he KNOWS difficult child hasn't really done all that he was saying. There has been NO sign of pot at home or anywhere and ALL drug tests have come back negative and difficult child hasn't been diluting his system. I reminded PO that we have known for several years that difficult child does things like that and a lot of it is to cover his own "real" issues and I tend to think that since difficult child has been that way with male tdocs and difficult child respects PO and he's a male, my guess is that he's trying to get some sort of attention from PO. PO said he kind of got that feeling.</p><p></p><p>PO says he has a lot of thoughts going thru his mind right now and wants to double check and see if he's overlooked any options. He's reluctant now to ask for a monitor, even on the waiting list. We discussed letting difficult child spend his 21 days in detention, then asking for a 30 day continuance at court with difficult child coming home on this program with a monitor, which is what I'd like to see. PO says that's risky because the judge might not go for it- they don't like to uuse the few monitors they have for parole violators. Then what can be done that deosn't seal his fate for a recommittal to Department of Juvenile Justice where we just go thru this "all to nothing" transitional period later on. I said whether it's next week, next month, or next year, difficult child will obviously need more supports in place when he's released. I told him to remember I asked about a group home for this very reason months ago. He said they have nothing available.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Apparently the therapist at the detention center- who refused to sign the one remaining form needed to get difficult child into a psychiatric Residential Treatment Center (RTC) last year even after psychiatrist put the order in and signed the form- saw difficult child and talked with him right after his arrival this morning. (She said last year she refused to sign the form because the probation officer had already told them all that she would never agree to difficult child going to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- she wanted him in Department of Juvenile Justice.)</p><p></p><p>Anyway, all I knew to do was to stress to PO that the longer difficult child is incarcerated, the more he will need a more structured transition, not less.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 355131, member: 3699"] PO just called again and said they won't have any available at least for another 7 to 10 days but after spending about 1 1/2 hour talking to difficult child, he's not so sure that it's the best thing right now. He says difficult child was talking non-stop about smoking pot a lot and stuff he's been doing and that he's not sure he wants to change. PO says that something is weird about this because he could tell that difficult child was trying to get PO to talk about this stuff but he KNOWS difficult child hasn't really done all that he was saying. There has been NO sign of pot at home or anywhere and ALL drug tests have come back negative and difficult child hasn't been diluting his system. I reminded PO that we have known for several years that difficult child does things like that and a lot of it is to cover his own "real" issues and I tend to think that since difficult child has been that way with male tdocs and difficult child respects PO and he's a male, my guess is that he's trying to get some sort of attention from PO. PO said he kind of got that feeling. PO says he has a lot of thoughts going thru his mind right now and wants to double check and see if he's overlooked any options. He's reluctant now to ask for a monitor, even on the waiting list. We discussed letting difficult child spend his 21 days in detention, then asking for a 30 day continuance at court with difficult child coming home on this program with a monitor, which is what I'd like to see. PO says that's risky because the judge might not go for it- they don't like to uuse the few monitors they have for parole violators. Then what can be done that deosn't seal his fate for a recommittal to Department of Juvenile Justice where we just go thru this "all to nothing" transitional period later on. I said whether it's next week, next month, or next year, difficult child will obviously need more supports in place when he's released. I told him to remember I asked about a group home for this very reason months ago. He said they have nothing available. Apparently the therapist at the detention center- who refused to sign the one remaining form needed to get difficult child into a psychiatric Residential Treatment Center (RTC) last year even after psychiatrist put the order in and signed the form- saw difficult child and talked with him right after his arrival this morning. (She said last year she refused to sign the form because the probation officer had already told them all that she would never agree to difficult child going to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- she wanted him in Department of Juvenile Justice.) Anyway, all I knew to do was to stress to PO that the longer difficult child is incarcerated, the more he will need a more structured transition, not less. [/QUOTE]
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