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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 597405" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>That's great. And of course he needs immediate reward. Even the most easy child teens do; and so do most adults. People simply don't work, if they don't get anything out of it. Neither do any other kind of animals. And with teens the immediate has to be really immediate.</p><p></p><p>My kiddies are jocks. Through the years they and all their team mates have dreamed about becoming pros and getting to big leagues. That would be a huge reward but far in future. They well know to get there, they would need to work very hard, also by themselves. Most of these kids have been pcs. I have never seen one that would had actually trained hard just to achieve that goal. I do know many who have trained hard and have made it to certain level pros or will do. But all of them have trained because they actually loved doing their training and playing, so their immediate reward was actually doing the training itself. When they have been around 15 or 16 some have been able to do things (like lots of boring drills or other type of training they don't enjoy much) so that they would be better next season. Not because of some very long term reward but relatively tangible, middle term reward. Long term goals are simply not motivating for kids. And often not to adults either. If they were, there would be no overweight people, people in bad physical shape or people who have been putting off cleaning their closets for three years in row.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 597405, member: 14557"] That's great. And of course he needs immediate reward. Even the most easy child teens do; and so do most adults. People simply don't work, if they don't get anything out of it. Neither do any other kind of animals. And with teens the immediate has to be really immediate. My kiddies are jocks. Through the years they and all their team mates have dreamed about becoming pros and getting to big leagues. That would be a huge reward but far in future. They well know to get there, they would need to work very hard, also by themselves. Most of these kids have been pcs. I have never seen one that would had actually trained hard just to achieve that goal. I do know many who have trained hard and have made it to certain level pros or will do. But all of them have trained because they actually loved doing their training and playing, so their immediate reward was actually doing the training itself. When they have been around 15 or 16 some have been able to do things (like lots of boring drills or other type of training they don't enjoy much) so that they would be better next season. Not because of some very long term reward but relatively tangible, middle term reward. Long term goals are simply not motivating for kids. And often not to adults either. If they were, there would be no overweight people, people in bad physical shape or people who have been putting off cleaning their closets for three years in row. [/QUOTE]
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