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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 177677" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Kjs,</p><p></p><p>First of all, {{{HUGS}}}. Sorry that you had to put up with that during what was supposed to be a holiday trip for you.</p><p></p><p>Now, as for difficult child.</p><p>I agree with the others that he is being an ungrateful spoiled brat. I am also concerned that husband isn't backing you up on this, and instead seems to be siding with difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I think that the "do to get" principle might be in order.</p><p>No more nice presents until difficult child shows that he can earn them and respect the rules about using them. Furthermore, confiscation of nice things that he's been abusing.</p><p></p><p>When my difficult child started surfing the internet and downloading ringtones on his cellphone, we blocked that option so he could no longer do so. Credit cards were all under lock and key. </p><p></p><p>I would remove the credit card number from his XBOX. He's shown that he can't be trusted not to abuse the privilege, so he doesn't get the privilege. If he needs his phone for safety then let him hang onto it, otherwise the phone would be gone too.</p><p></p><p>It's a long, hard road, and it seems that lying is one of the hardest habits to break with our difficult children. They just don't see how destructive it is.</p><p></p><p>(I really feel your pain on this one. I've just arrived home from a visit to difficult child's Residential Treatment Center (RTC) where his one-on-one caregiver and I just finished tossing his room and I found a bunch of things of mine, DHs and others that were stolen from the house last time he visited. When confronted, I was met with bare-faced lies, even though I was holding the things in my hands at the time.)</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 177677, member: 3907"] Kjs, First of all, {{{HUGS}}}. Sorry that you had to put up with that during what was supposed to be a holiday trip for you. Now, as for difficult child. I agree with the others that he is being an ungrateful spoiled brat. I am also concerned that husband isn't backing you up on this, and instead seems to be siding with difficult child. I think that the "do to get" principle might be in order. No more nice presents until difficult child shows that he can earn them and respect the rules about using them. Furthermore, confiscation of nice things that he's been abusing. When my difficult child started surfing the internet and downloading ringtones on his cellphone, we blocked that option so he could no longer do so. Credit cards were all under lock and key. I would remove the credit card number from his XBOX. He's shown that he can't be trusted not to abuse the privilege, so he doesn't get the privilege. If he needs his phone for safety then let him hang onto it, otherwise the phone would be gone too. It's a long, hard road, and it seems that lying is one of the hardest habits to break with our difficult children. They just don't see how destructive it is. (I really feel your pain on this one. I've just arrived home from a visit to difficult child's Residential Treatment Center (RTC) where his one-on-one caregiver and I just finished tossing his room and I found a bunch of things of mine, DHs and others that were stolen from the house last time he visited. When confronted, I was met with bare-faced lies, even though I was holding the things in my hands at the time.) Trinity [/QUOTE]
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