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difficult child's narrative to his life -how very, very sad
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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 637865" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>Suzir,</p><p>To be honest I think it is probably more about not wanting to relive it all. It's extremely emotional to remember painful things from your past and disect them in order to work through them. I think that is one of the biggest reasons that people fear therapy. They are afraid of the pain. If they are honest they will also admit that they are afraid of finding out that something might truly be wrong with them. That they are more broken than they thought they were.</p><p> </p><p>It's never easy to admit to the pain, the fear, or the uncertainty and then realize what parts of it are about you and what parts of it are about the person who victimized you. I never wanted to think that I could have played a part in what happened to me. Reality is that I did play a part. My personaliy, the physical location, my size, my smarts, and alot of other things are things that are mine to own up to. Did I do anything wrong. NOPE but just by being me I attracted my victimizer. I just had to realize at some point that there were things I could have done differently and ways I could have been smarter. Those were my things I had to take responsibility for. All the rest of it wasn't mine to feel bad for. I was the victim.</p><p> </p><p>I really hope your difficult child has enough support to let go of the fear and get the help. It doesnt fix everything but it opens you up to the good again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 637865, member: 15473"] Suzir, To be honest I think it is probably more about not wanting to relive it all. It's extremely emotional to remember painful things from your past and disect them in order to work through them. I think that is one of the biggest reasons that people fear therapy. They are afraid of the pain. If they are honest they will also admit that they are afraid of finding out that something might truly be wrong with them. That they are more broken than they thought they were. It's never easy to admit to the pain, the fear, or the uncertainty and then realize what parts of it are about you and what parts of it are about the person who victimized you. I never wanted to think that I could have played a part in what happened to me. Reality is that I did play a part. My personaliy, the physical location, my size, my smarts, and alot of other things are things that are mine to own up to. Did I do anything wrong. NOPE but just by being me I attracted my victimizer. I just had to realize at some point that there were things I could have done differently and ways I could have been smarter. Those were my things I had to take responsibility for. All the rest of it wasn't mine to feel bad for. I was the victim. I really hope your difficult child has enough support to let go of the fear and get the help. It doesnt fix everything but it opens you up to the good again. [/QUOTE]
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