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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 421910" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>And why isn't a standalone ED/Learning Disability (LD) classroom on the table for her? Given your description, that sounds like the most appropriate placement right now. There shouldn't even be any discussion or argument about it from the school district. Clearly she is experiencing significant anxiety and school refusal.</p><p></p><p>Frankly Jena, having homeschooled my twins for 2 years while difficult child 2 was really sick and now dealing with school refusal in difficult child 2, in my experience you cannot be "nice" about your expectations. If she's "lazy" then there must be significant consequences for that. No TV, no nice meals, no computer time for fun, no new clothes, ultimately no door to her room if that's what it takes. And it sounds like you are being too nice - if you are going to take that approach.</p><p></p><p>I know things have been way crazy stressful there. That is why I think she needs to be at school instead of at home. You do not need the additional stress and she needs the structure and consistent expectations/instruction.</p><p></p><p>As for the workload and being held back.</p><p></p><p>There is no way she is going to stay on track with tutors 5 hours a week no matter how much you work with her at home unless she does another 15 + hours of homework independently of the tutors being there. 3 hours a day might be realistic if she were engaged, motivated and given consistent and adequate instruction and independent assignments. That is not happening and she is going to fall farther and farther behind.</p><p></p><p>If she's that far behind in 6th grade and has developed this kind of resistance already - well it's not good.</p><p></p><p>I feel bad for you but I don't think this is how you want things to be and you need to find an alternative approach now. </p><p></p><p>Her IEP should have ESY built in for either private tutoring or paid tutoring in the community all summer if you stay on this course.</p><p></p><p>Or she needs a non-public year round school placement. That is probably really and truly what would be best if I understand the situation.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Patricia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 421910, member: 7948"] And why isn't a standalone ED/Learning Disability (LD) classroom on the table for her? Given your description, that sounds like the most appropriate placement right now. There shouldn't even be any discussion or argument about it from the school district. Clearly she is experiencing significant anxiety and school refusal. Frankly Jena, having homeschooled my twins for 2 years while difficult child 2 was really sick and now dealing with school refusal in difficult child 2, in my experience you cannot be "nice" about your expectations. If she's "lazy" then there must be significant consequences for that. No TV, no nice meals, no computer time for fun, no new clothes, ultimately no door to her room if that's what it takes. And it sounds like you are being too nice - if you are going to take that approach. I know things have been way crazy stressful there. That is why I think she needs to be at school instead of at home. You do not need the additional stress and she needs the structure and consistent expectations/instruction. As for the workload and being held back. There is no way she is going to stay on track with tutors 5 hours a week no matter how much you work with her at home unless she does another 15 + hours of homework independently of the tutors being there. 3 hours a day might be realistic if she were engaged, motivated and given consistent and adequate instruction and independent assignments. That is not happening and she is going to fall farther and farther behind. If she's that far behind in 6th grade and has developed this kind of resistance already - well it's not good. I feel bad for you but I don't think this is how you want things to be and you need to find an alternative approach now. Her IEP should have ESY built in for either private tutoring or paid tutoring in the community all summer if you stay on this course. Or she needs a non-public year round school placement. That is probably really and truly what would be best if I understand the situation. Hugs, Patricia [/QUOTE]
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