StepTo2 - I am very similar to your mom, my kids rarely miss school unless it's a doctor appointment. I'm not one to keep them home for an upset tummy, cramps, headache, etc - unless it is seriously disabling them.
Smallworld - you said "If your daughter has never been stable" - that sentence, makes me go ummmm... Ever been stable? For how long? I don't ever recall her being stable for a whole month, if we are lucky 2 or very rarely 3 weeks in a row - but then she still has all her physical complaints, defiance, etc. I guess I'm not sure what 'stable' would qualify as.
Good point on the otc cure - yea, I don't want her to not trust me, so that pretty much rules out the otc cure well that and I don't think I could do it.
Haozi - I would say difficult child is a complainer. Not really a worrier unless you count phsyical complaints, then yes. I don't know, I guess it depends on what you mean exactly. I wonder what constitutes distorted thoughts? I think she most definitely has a distorted thinking process - I think it's what it would be called. Where I may tell her: You might be able to watch tv tonight - she will interpret it to me saying 'You can watch tv at 6 PM' or whatever time makes her happy - that happens with everyone she's interacting with and a lot of the time - she makes things or hears what she wants to hear - if that makes sense.
Going North - good point on the otc cure.
DJ - yeah, sounds like a good idea - but with my difficult child it might work very temporarily until she realizes she was tricked and then loose trust and I don't want that, nor social service issues - even if her remedial said do it - I'm gonna pass. Too many negatives.
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So, I did play the game tonight once she returned from school.
I had her come straight to the kitchen for 4 pm medications - then I was looking her over (checking for symptoms), felt her head, asked how tummy was (she's FINE she said at that point, lol. Then she started getting upset saying her remedial worker told me to do this). I keep playing along, saying how sorry I am she has an upset stomach, and to ensure that her siblings don't get sick and to ensure she gets better that she would need to rest in her room all evening. That did NOT fly well at all, and she had a small fit (30 mins) - I did resort to a warning of a consequence (removal of items I bought this weekend for her) - gave her 15 minutes to figure it out. And VOILA! To her room she went.
I also let her sleep through dinner, only because I wanted to avoid the issue of her having a fit because I was going to make her choose chicken noodle soup or ramen noodles since she's 'ill' - sorry no need for homemade tacos if your tummy hurts. She ended up choosing Ramen, then went back to bed after medications and a few saltines.
This worked! I was amazed - but it only worked because she was asleep! lol
Smallworld - you said "If your daughter has never been stable" - that sentence, makes me go ummmm... Ever been stable? For how long? I don't ever recall her being stable for a whole month, if we are lucky 2 or very rarely 3 weeks in a row - but then she still has all her physical complaints, defiance, etc. I guess I'm not sure what 'stable' would qualify as.
Good point on the otc cure - yea, I don't want her to not trust me, so that pretty much rules out the otc cure well that and I don't think I could do it.
Haozi - I would say difficult child is a complainer. Not really a worrier unless you count phsyical complaints, then yes. I don't know, I guess it depends on what you mean exactly. I wonder what constitutes distorted thoughts? I think she most definitely has a distorted thinking process - I think it's what it would be called. Where I may tell her: You might be able to watch tv tonight - she will interpret it to me saying 'You can watch tv at 6 PM' or whatever time makes her happy - that happens with everyone she's interacting with and a lot of the time - she makes things or hears what she wants to hear - if that makes sense.
Going North - good point on the otc cure.
DJ - yeah, sounds like a good idea - but with my difficult child it might work very temporarily until she realizes she was tricked and then loose trust and I don't want that, nor social service issues - even if her remedial said do it - I'm gonna pass. Too many negatives.
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So, I did play the game tonight once she returned from school.
I had her come straight to the kitchen for 4 pm medications - then I was looking her over (checking for symptoms), felt her head, asked how tummy was (she's FINE she said at that point, lol. Then she started getting upset saying her remedial worker told me to do this). I keep playing along, saying how sorry I am she has an upset stomach, and to ensure that her siblings don't get sick and to ensure she gets better that she would need to rest in her room all evening. That did NOT fly well at all, and she had a small fit (30 mins) - I did resort to a warning of a consequence (removal of items I bought this weekend for her) - gave her 15 minutes to figure it out. And VOILA! To her room she went.
I also let her sleep through dinner, only because I wanted to avoid the issue of her having a fit because I was going to make her choose chicken noodle soup or ramen noodles since she's 'ill' - sorry no need for homemade tacos if your tummy hurts. She ended up choosing Ramen, then went back to bed after medications and a few saltines.
This worked! I was amazed - but it only worked because she was asleep! lol
