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<blockquote data-quote="Hopeful97" data-source="post: 680927" data-attributes="member: 19678"><p>Update:</p><p></p><p>Phone call from d c Saturday. He apologized I asked for what he says this is going to break your heart but I am going to be going to jail and proceeds to tell me about programs they have at our county jail that are various lengths of time. I am happy to report I was and am not heart broken at this news. I knew it was coming because of all the various charges and missed court dates. D c goes on to apologize again and I ask for what he says for everything. I say thank you. (I tell hubs this and he says you should have said when are you going to start paying us. This is a good thing because it tells me that hubs has made great strides along this journey from where he had been just a couple of weeks ago.) D c then says if you want you can put money in an account at the jail and I can call you or you can come see me if you want but you don't have to. I tell d c I know we don't have to but that we would probably come see him and would probably put money in an account so he could make phone calls but hubs and I would talk about it when the time came. </p><p></p><p>D c then tells me "I was a delinquent and now am a man" I have did things and now I have to deal with it. Stupidly, I ask are your clothes and things going to be there when you get out. He says yes. I say well if the people you are living with move or something what are you going to do. I tell him if he wants to store his clothes our home that would be okay. He says he will give the mom of the family he is staying with my phone number and will get hers to give to me. We end conversation d c says I love you I respond I love you too.</p><p></p><p> D c gets picked up by local police later that evening. I start thinking I don't have the phone number of where he is staying to get his clothes. Should I just go over there. I can feel a panic beginning, I call my sis she simply say you have grown a lot the past few months remember what you have learned from the CD website and Ala Non. I slow down to think about things and quickly realize several things but first and foremost it is not my problem. D c did not ask if I would get clothes. I offered to store them, it ends there. (pat myself on the back). It feels really good to say Not My Problem. </p><p></p><p>D c comes by the house last night, hubs answers and d c says he is here to get package that came for him in the mail. Hubs gives it to him and talks to him for a couple of minutes. I ask hubs did d c ask how I was doing or anything (as I had surgery that morning) hubs says no he just said how he is running from police until March 10. We have no idea what March 10 is other than maybe that is when he has to be in court for whatever he was picked up for. At any rate it is still not my problem.</p><p></p><p>I don't believe there has been much change regarding my d c , and it is really sad.</p><p></p><p>Feels kind of strange no tears and not getting worked up about latest concerning d c.</p><p></p><p>Surgery went well yesterday. Doctor will contact me when pathology report comes back and we will discuss next step. It is my understanding that if this pathology report comes back clean I will have 6 weeks of radiation 5 days week followed by 5 years of taking an estrogen blocker. Pain is manageable mainly tender under left arm. I am a survivor.</p><p></p><p>I am doing good and very much at peace!<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/angel.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":angel:" title="angel :angel:" data-shortname=":angel:" /></p><p></p><p>Thanks for listening and your responses!</p><p></p><p>Thank you for all of yours prayers and support! Standing Strong!</p><p></p><p>Huge Hugs,</p><p>Hopeful</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hopeful97, post: 680927, member: 19678"] Update: Phone call from d c Saturday. He apologized I asked for what he says this is going to break your heart but I am going to be going to jail and proceeds to tell me about programs they have at our county jail that are various lengths of time. I am happy to report I was and am not heart broken at this news. I knew it was coming because of all the various charges and missed court dates. D c goes on to apologize again and I ask for what he says for everything. I say thank you. (I tell hubs this and he says you should have said when are you going to start paying us. This is a good thing because it tells me that hubs has made great strides along this journey from where he had been just a couple of weeks ago.) D c then says if you want you can put money in an account at the jail and I can call you or you can come see me if you want but you don't have to. I tell d c I know we don't have to but that we would probably come see him and would probably put money in an account so he could make phone calls but hubs and I would talk about it when the time came. D c then tells me "I was a delinquent and now am a man" I have did things and now I have to deal with it. Stupidly, I ask are your clothes and things going to be there when you get out. He says yes. I say well if the people you are living with move or something what are you going to do. I tell him if he wants to store his clothes our home that would be okay. He says he will give the mom of the family he is staying with my phone number and will get hers to give to me. We end conversation d c says I love you I respond I love you too. D c gets picked up by local police later that evening. I start thinking I don't have the phone number of where he is staying to get his clothes. Should I just go over there. I can feel a panic beginning, I call my sis she simply say you have grown a lot the past few months remember what you have learned from the CD website and Ala Non. I slow down to think about things and quickly realize several things but first and foremost it is not my problem. D c did not ask if I would get clothes. I offered to store them, it ends there. (pat myself on the back). It feels really good to say Not My Problem. D c comes by the house last night, hubs answers and d c says he is here to get package that came for him in the mail. Hubs gives it to him and talks to him for a couple of minutes. I ask hubs did d c ask how I was doing or anything (as I had surgery that morning) hubs says no he just said how he is running from police until March 10. We have no idea what March 10 is other than maybe that is when he has to be in court for whatever he was picked up for. At any rate it is still not my problem. I don't believe there has been much change regarding my d c , and it is really sad. Feels kind of strange no tears and not getting worked up about latest concerning d c. Surgery went well yesterday. Doctor will contact me when pathology report comes back and we will discuss next step. It is my understanding that if this pathology report comes back clean I will have 6 weeks of radiation 5 days week followed by 5 years of taking an estrogen blocker. Pain is manageable mainly tender under left arm. I am a survivor. I am doing good and very much at peace!:angel: Thanks for listening and your responses! Thank you for all of yours prayers and support! Standing Strong! Huge Hugs, Hopeful [/QUOTE]
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