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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 515647"><p>I think that there is a difference between setting boundaries and making accomodations. My mom never allowed a messy bedroom. Come to think of it, I think that they were difficult children in adult form! LOL!! I don't get crazy is their bedrooms are messy. difficult child's room is quite messy, but it's really alot better than it used to be. I don't allow them to leave dirty clothes on the floor. I will let them eat snacks in their room, but the dishes and water bottles need to come back downstairs when they are finished with with.</p><p></p><p>difficult child used to sleep on the floor in his room so his floor had to be reasonably neat so that he could lay down. Now that we finally got him back into his bed it's still pretty neat, so I haven't made a big deal out of his room.</p><p></p><p>husband actually just finished a huge clean up in easy child's room. I couldn't even walk in there and I had to constantly step over everything to get in there. I told husband that either I was going to do, which would means me throwing everything on the floor in the garbage, or husband could do it because he doesn;t throw anything away. Actually, it looks really good, but we told him that if he doesn't keep it looking nice then Mom is going to go in there with garbage bags.</p><p></p><p>If their rooms are becoming messy to the point that you have health concerns, like bugs or mold, then you need to step in. You can't allow your house to be endangered because a difficult child refuses to clean up so that their space can be liveable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 515647"] I think that there is a difference between setting boundaries and making accomodations. My mom never allowed a messy bedroom. Come to think of it, I think that they were difficult children in adult form! LOL!! I don't get crazy is their bedrooms are messy. difficult child's room is quite messy, but it's really alot better than it used to be. I don't allow them to leave dirty clothes on the floor. I will let them eat snacks in their room, but the dishes and water bottles need to come back downstairs when they are finished with with. difficult child used to sleep on the floor in his room so his floor had to be reasonably neat so that he could lay down. Now that we finally got him back into his bed it's still pretty neat, so I haven't made a big deal out of his room. husband actually just finished a huge clean up in easy child's room. I couldn't even walk in there and I had to constantly step over everything to get in there. I told husband that either I was going to do, which would means me throwing everything on the floor in the garbage, or husband could do it because he doesn;t throw anything away. Actually, it looks really good, but we told him that if he doesn't keep it looking nice then Mom is going to go in there with garbage bags. If their rooms are becoming messy to the point that you have health concerns, like bugs or mold, then you need to step in. You can't allow your house to be endangered because a difficult child refuses to clean up so that their space can be liveable. [/QUOTE]
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